Post # 1
So long story short: We are having our destination wedding in a month and our number guests quadrupled. Initially, we wanted to throw welcome cocktail party or brunch. However, given that our guest list quadrupled, I don’t know if we can afford to throw one.
We asked for quotes, but it’s pretty pricey. We are only offering a Callejoneada (a traditional walking serenade with a marichi band). Is it okay to not offer bruch after the wedding or a Welcome cocktail party? Or is it rude?
This topic was modified 2 years, 10 months ago by Ms_DW_bee.
Post # 2
I definitely don’t expect a welcome cocktail party, and I don’t really expect brunch either but it’s always nice. I would say you don’t need to do either, just have some really awesome welcome bags.
Post # 3
Ms_DW_bee: I don’t think you need to do a welcome cocktail party, but you do need to offer your guests some form of refreshments after the ceremony.
Post # 4
We are offering a full wedding reception (dinner, full bar, late night snacks), just not a brunch or a welcome party.
Post # 5
I am just a little bit confused. Will there be a reception with a dinner/lunch/refreshments/cocktails/something after the ceremony? If so, then that’s fine. I do think it might be rude not to offer any sort of refreshments after the ceremony, but I cannot tell from the OP if that’s what she means by not offering brunch after the wedding.
Post # 6
I just saw the update, and I think that’s absolutely fine! Most weddings don’t offer anything except the reception.
Post # 7
I forgot to specified that. We are a having a wedding reception with dinner, dancing, etc. We just wanted to host other events for our guests, such as welcome party or a bruch. Sorry for being so vague.
Post # 8
i was a little confused at first, but i saw your update.
it’s totally fine to skip a brunch or welcome party. in my family someone (usually the parents of the bride or groom) will usually host a day-after brunch, but a lot of people don’t do anything and it’s no big deal.
Post # 9
If you really wanted to do something extra – the brunch would be much cheaper to do than the welcome party. Maybe a “continental brunch” aka breakfast pastries, fruit, etc. Mimosas? Depending on where you are staying, you can have someone pick up the items from a local bakery and reserve a lounge area in the hotel and serve it there. Some hotels will let you do this.
Post # 10
I think you’ll be fine without. I’m sure that guests would appreciate a brunch or cocktail hour since they’re traveling so far, but they will also want to go out and explore on their own, and not having to go to that would give them more time to explore! I’d say you can’t go wrong either way.
Post # 11
We did a no-host brunch the day after our wedding at a restaurant and it worked great, I really don’t think anyone was put off by having to pay their own bill. We announced it on our website. “No Host Brunch: Bride and groom will be making a large reservation at (restraurant) and would be happy if you wish to join them for breakfast!”
Post # 12
It’s always fun when a destination wedding turns into an entire weekend of events. But in NO way is this required or considered rude if you don’t host these things. God help us if people’s wedding expectations get any higher. lol.
Post # 13
Ugh I’ve toyed with this as well. I’d love to host a brunch the morning after, I just don’t see it in our budget! I love the idea of a “no-host” brunch though, just gives you that extra time with loved ones you don’t see enough. Great idea!
Post # 14
Ms_DW_bee: I understand the draw of this for a DW wedding, but don’t feel you are obligated to do so. If you want to fill more of the time/spend more time with guests but cannot afford it, there is no reason you can’t meet your guests for drinks the night before and/or invite them casually for breakfast the day after the wedding, just casual/word of mouth/hey this is where we plan to be tomm at “x” for brunch, so it’s clear you aren’t footing the bill.
Post # 15
I think it’s fine not to do a next day brunch. I doubt anyone would expect it. Maybe you can have everyone meet up at the pool (or hotel bar for a drink?) at lunchtime or something, just to hang out.