Is it okay to not offer bruch after the wedding or a welcome cocktail party?

posted 2 years ago in Destination Weddings
  • poll: Is it okay to not offer bruch after the wedding or a Welcome cocktail party?
    Yes : (32 votes)
    73 %
    No : (12 votes)
    27 %
    Other (explain why) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 2
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    584 posts
    Busy bee

    I definitely don’t expect a welcome cocktail party, and I don’t really expect brunch either but it’s always nice. I would say you don’t need to do either, just have some really awesome welcome bags.

    Post # 3
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    42510 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Ms_DW_bee:  I don’t think you need to do a welcome cocktail party, but you do need to offer your guests some form of refreshments after the ceremony.

    Post # 5
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    3368 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 1997

    I am just a little bit confused. Will there be a reception with a dinner/lunch/refreshments/cocktails/something after the ceremony? If so, then that’s fine. I do think it might be rude not to offer any sort of refreshments after the ceremony, but I cannot tell from the OP if that’s what she means by not offering brunch after the wedding.

    Post # 6
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    3368 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 1997

    I just saw the update, and I think that’s absolutely fine! Most weddings don’t offer anything except the reception.

    Post # 8
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    2913 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    i was a little confused at first, but i saw your update.

    it’s totally fine to skip a brunch or welcome party. in my family someone (usually the parents of the bride or groom) will usually host a day-after brunch, but a lot of people don’t do anything and it’s no big deal.

    Post # 9
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    174 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    If you really wanted to do something extra – the brunch would be much cheaper to do than the welcome party.  Maybe a “continental brunch” aka breakfast pastries, fruit, etc.  Mimosas?  Depending on where you are staying, you can have someone pick up the items from a local bakery and reserve a lounge area in the hotel and serve it there.  Some hotels will let you do this.

    Post # 10
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    458 posts
    Helper bee

    I think you’ll be fine without.  I’m sure that guests would appreciate a brunch or cocktail hour since they’re traveling so far, but they will also want to go out and explore on their own, and not having to go to that would give them more time to explore!  I’d say you can’t go wrong either way.

    Post # 11
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    1432 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    We did a no-host brunch the day after our wedding at a restaurant and it worked great, I really don’t think anyone was put off by having to pay their own bill. We announced it on our website. “No Host Brunch: Bride and groom will be making a large reservation at (restraurant) and would be happy if you wish to join them for breakfast!”

    Post # 12
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    1532 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    It’s always fun when a destination wedding turns into an entire weekend of events. But in NO way is this required or considered rude if you don’t host these things. God help us if people’s wedding expectations get any higher. lol.

    Post # 13
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    23 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Ugh I’ve toyed with this as well. I’d love to host a brunch the morning after, I just don’t see it in our budget! I love the idea of a “no-host” brunch though, just gives you that extra time with loved ones you don’t see enough. Great idea!

    Post # 14
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    299 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Ms_DW_bee:  I understand the draw of this for a DW wedding, but don’t feel you are obligated to do so. If you want to fill more of the time/spend more time with guests but cannot afford it, there is no reason you can’t meet your guests for drinks the night before and/or invite them casually for breakfast the day after the wedding, just casual/word of mouth/hey this is where we plan to be tomm at “x” for brunch, so it’s clear you aren’t footing the bill. 

    Post # 15
    msbordercollieMember
    102 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    I think it’s fine not to do a next day brunch.  I doubt anyone would expect it.  Maybe you can have everyone meet up at the pool (or hotel bar for a drink?) at lunchtime or something, just to hang out.

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