- 8 years ago
- Wedding: March 2018
ok bees I have gone back and forth on this issue so much, maybe I just need a fresh perspective.
FSIL- doesn’t get along great with FI- she is 21 and He is 23 but they still sometimes fight like they are 6! (siblings, I know)
I asked her to be a BM and she seemed really excited at first!
We made a plan to go on a trip to san fran to meet up with all my bm to get dresses. I paid the gas and I have a bay area bm we stayed with. At the last minute she said she couldn’t afford to not work and bailed. I get the money part, but she knew a month in advance when her work schedule was posted, and I wasn’t mad that she didn’t go, just mad she waited till the week before to tell me, because she knew I wouldn’t like to hear it.
she complained about the shoes and didn’t call me back for like a week and a half when I wanted her to try them on. I finally had to drive to her house, and once she tried them she liked them, but the avoidance thing again!
The next part is as told to me by my moh/ other bm
months ago my moh combined everyone’s schedules and decided to have my shower on jan 2nd so my sister would be home from college.
Then the Oregon ducks (college football) did really well and they went to the rosebowl on jan 1st.
FSIL and FMIL went to the game, skipping the shower and something else that was really important to my FI, and he is really hurt.
Neither one ever bothered to tell me or my MOH that they weren’t going to go, and FSIL was supposed to help.
I had to ask them, and even then FSIL emailed MOH a response 2 days before, oh btw I won’t be there.
I guess MOH asked all the BM to chip in to help cover the costs of my PERFECT shower. (another post, but she did an awesome job!)
FSIL says she doesn’t have any money (since she just took a week off work to go to a football game) and since she wasn’t there she shouldn’t have to contribute.
Of my 6 bm only moh and FSIL live local so I think they could have really used my help.
FMIL has never liked me and FSIL I think is being influenced by her.
I no longer want her to be a bridesmaid. FI is so mad he said he doesn’t care if she even comes to the wedding and he can’t wait to be in my family where people are nice! He really wants to fire her.
I don’t know if de-bridesmaiding her is worth the drama, I don’t want her near me on my wedding day but I don’t want FI to ruin his relationship with his sister!!