(Closed) I never thought the Wedding stuffies would be so difficult!!! :(

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Of course! A ton of us have been there and hate that feeling :-/

Time doesn’t help either, the more time you have, the more you second guess yourself. And when it comes down to the details, they don’t have to be perfect. Should they be up to your standards, yes. What helped me most was making a list of everything that HAD to be perfect – photography and a few small details, then from there I made a list of thing of lesser importance. Make sure to communicate to your vendors your level of expectations and your vision.

But time is on your side too, you have time to better yourself if you’d like. But all in all everything will turn out wonderfully and you just need to keep reminding yourself that.

What do you invision your perfect wedding looking like??

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My tips (please know that even as of last night I was acting like a crazy person accusing people of “being selfish” and whatnot so I need to follow these tips as well):

– Take a deep breath

– Find a hobby, seriously…I started pilates (get lean and get busy!) and it’s been a really great stress reliever!

– Take breaks, a day or two with NO wedding talk!

– Realize that what you consider perfect today will be stupid tomorrow…and then just laugh because the final things you choose you may look back in 10 years and think, “what was I THINKING?!?!?”

– Take another deep breath and order that piece of pie at dinner that your FI took you to on your date night (NO WEDDING TALK!)

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I sent you a PM πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

My tips?  Once you decide on a detail, stop looking at everyone elses. Like for me? I struggled with the floral bouquet idea. I couldn’t imagine spending that much on something that was going to die. After a while, I decided no floral bouquets. I’m not going to go hang out on the flowers forum or google search flower bouquets to make me think twice.

Another thing about colors. Choose your scheme and stay off of the Perfect Pallette. Stop looking for dresses when you choose one.

That’s the blessing and curse for having such a long time to plan.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Stick to what is true to yourself. I found myself drawn to many awesome ideas but they weren’t really “me”.

By finding a few key things that I *loved* I stopped looking at other ideas that were vastly different and just kept my search narrowed to specific ideas. if I did see something I liked, I tried to figure out a way to modify it to fit what I’m doing.

Definately take days “off” from wedding planning…I tend to take a whole weekend off…no wedding talk, no DIY’s, no internet surfing. It actually, really, really helped me focus!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would recommend not making any big decor and DIY decisions just yet! You said you started invitations and then threw them out?! I have totally done things like that so I understand…. but don’t make your invitations so early! I started my invites in March and sent them out in May for an August wedding and even that was early!

Have fun right now looking through magazines and websites and getting ideas. Make a scrapbook or several inspiration boards. Don’t worry about choosing things right away. You’ll find that when you choose your venue, talk to bridesmaids, talk to family… it’ll become easier to decide on things.

Good luck! I hope that things don’t get too stressful. And come to the Bee when you need help!

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

This is how we came up with our colors – I asked him “What color vest would you like to wear with your tux?”  He said he was not going to wear anything other than black, so that settled it, we are having a black and white wedding!  My girls are wearing black dresses and the only color will be the blue flowers that my girls carry and my flowers will be white and blue.  Oh, and some blue flowers in the centerpieces.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I was driving myself crazy. I am a stay at home mom so I know all about having too much time on my hands. I will publicy admit that in one day I looked at ALL the pages on weddingbee’s DIY gallery and boards. Insane, I know.

Tip one: Get a hobby. I began bootcamp which allowed me to be social, meet new people, release my stress and lose weight!

Tip 2: do not talk about the wedding for at least one or two days a week. Make a “wedding swear” jar. Put in a dollar every time you mention anything wedding related on your off days. Use the cash for the honeymoon.

Tip 3: make an inspiration board/book. I cut up many wedding magazines, and others to get color scheme ideas, themes and whatnot

Tip 4:You can choose a theme and stick to it. Mine is Recipe for Love. It has been hard finding items to match my theme, but I have not wavered.

Tip 4: Ask friends to help make things. My DIY wedding sweat shop opens this weekend! You can always come help me!

Tip 5: Once you get the basics down, love what you love. Getting too many opinions will confuse, sadden and piss you off! Do not second guess yourself. My mother, sister and BFF flipped when I decided to wear a fire engine red dress. But I LOVE my dress.

Tip6: Once you have decided the colors and themes, begin the hardest projects first. For me it was centerpieces (1,200 hand dyed coffee filtered flowers with twine wrapped jelly, applesauce and juice jars). I began my projects less than 6 months from the date so I had no choice but to use them. take a break from decorating too. I hated my center pieces, left them alone for a week and came back with fresh ideas and now I love them!

I hope this helps!

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m sorry your feeling this way… I do to more times than not… I just try not to look at it as a whole (I look at it as what needs to be done this month) with 12 months left and everything broken up evenly so I’m not too overworked and stressed.

As for changing your mind… happens to everyone ( I went from Halloween wedding to winter wedding in a barn with silver and red to a black and white wedding to our final choice of all green and midsummer nights dream theme- which came when we toured our venue ) Once you get one main idea locked down things fall into place pretty nicely.

As for not feeling like your invites are good enough… I keep tossing my half done creations too. I come here for support hehe. This is surely costing me a bundle. I know your pain of this one!

When you buy your dress and such things it’s easy to feel like you could have done better if you keep looking after you found one… I think it’s easiest to take lots of pictures so you can look at them and remember why you picked your dress when you feel any doubt. 

I am very sleepy and it’s 4am so I didn’t read what PP’s said but if I’m repeating things I’m sorry =( 

Good luck with your final choices and remember I’m right there with ya (your not alone) there’s always something I’m struggling with- last month jewelry this month a cake topper… lol

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