Post # 1
My problem is I am only close with a few people at work & we are on a budget which is putting limits on our guest list. I was thinkig about only inviting the people that I’m close to but there have been other coworkers who have invited the entire department and I went to those weddings partially out of peer pressure & obligation. Everyone knows I’m getting married & they are asking about when & where but I can’t afford nor do I want everyone there but I also don’t want things to be awkward after the fact either because I went to their wedding but didn’t invite them to mine. What to do?
Post # 3
Invite who you want. Don’t feel pressure to invite anyone because they invited you. You may consider talking to them privately and letting them know you will be inviting them, but that your guest list was limited so you weren’t able to invite everyone. That will let them know to not make a big deal of getting the invitation or talking it up.
If it puts a smile on your face to think of those coworkers at your wedding, then you should invite them. People understand size and budget limits. The best thing is just to be discreet.
Post # 4
I was having the same issue but ultimately decided it was easier to not invite any of my coworkers.
Post # 5
I’d not invite any of them. If you only invite some, the others will know, and it could become incredibly awkward for you at work. It’s not worth the risk. At least if nobody from the office is invited, you can claim it was because you only invited very close friends and family.
Post # 6
If there’s anyone who you socialize with outside of work, it’s okay to invite them because they are clearly friends. I’d hesitate to invite people who you don’t socialize with outside of work though because technically they fall into the same “coworker” category and certain people may get their panties in a bunch if you invite some people but not others.
Post # 7
I agree with @VAwife – only invite the ones you’ve socialized with outside of work. Tell the rest of them that you are having a small, intimate wedding and that, while you’d love to invite everyone, you simply can’t afford it… and your venue is too small. A little fib never hurt anyone!
Post # 8
maybe you can invite a few co-workers to a pre-bridal event like the shower or the bachlorette party. Maybe even to brunch.
Post # 9
My BFF got married in September and had the same problem. She works in a huge office of about 200 people and the ones she talks to but is not close with assumed they’d be invited. They asked her for all of the details and everything. She only invited two people from work though, one of our best friends that we went to high school with (because we are all friends outside of work and have known each other for years) and a woman that she has become really close to. She secretly gave them their invitations and never said another word about it. She said, if asked why they were not invited (I can’t believe people would have such audacity, but they do!) that she would say she was limited due to venue size. It was the complete truth. No one said anything to her about it or acted offended, though, so maybe it won’t be that big of a deal!