Post # 1
About how I was getting frustrated that my bf got me a promise ring for me 33rd bday when what I wanted was an engagement ring and you ladies told me to talk to him about it. And so I did and he said ” If thats what will make you happy ,okay”. Well , I was so happy with that convo I didn’t bother to mention it again. Now two weeks later i’m starting to wonder if he said that just to appease me. Don’t get me wrong ladies , He’s a great bf and has never been a real jerk in the 4 yrs we have been together. I guess i’m just trying to rush everything. I want a proper engagement ..and by that I don’t mean another ring .. I love my promise ring and see no need for another one. It wasnt cheap and everyone thought it was an engagement ring anyway. I just want him to propose already ! I keep thinking that by the time we get married i’ll most likely be 35 .. ugh ! .. this sucks.
Post # 3
🙁 Sorry this is so frustrating for you. I hope that you both can work it out.
Post # 4
Ouch! This exact thing happened to me. I believe that promise rings are tacky and almost insulting after you are a certain age, or when you know your relationship hs reached a certain crux. Promise rings are best suited to high-school relationships.
My bf also got me one of those. And trust me, I also rather had NOT received a promise ring or a ring AT ALL if it wasn’t going to be an engagement ring. Hello!? When we are turning 30 and been in a relationhip for a good while and the relationship is going VERY WELL, you don’t need a PROMISE you will stay together. You need a MARRIAGE.
Post # 5
If you are concerned about rushing him then please talk to him about it. If he feels pressured then it will eventually fester and lead to an argument later down the road.
Post # 6
A promise ring at age 33? Oh I’d be FUMING. Tell him that although you appreciate the gesture, why is he calling it a promise ring and not an engagement ring? How long have you been together? OMG I’d be so mad.
Post # 7
yea i went through this with my Fiance, he got me a promise ring for christmas….i was LIVID! i never wore it, i explained to him that i was not some high school teen booper and i didnt need a promise ring i wanted an engagment ring. he called me selfish and ungrateful…..i told him that we were 2 different pages and wanted differnt things and that when our lease was up i was moving out on me own.
that was in december…we went through jan trying to figure out what we wanted as a couple, met with our pastor alot. It was a hard time for us! at the end of jan my promise ring came up missing! i searched the whole house for it..i was devestated because i didnt want him to think that i would losse my e ring (if i ever got one). he seemed pretty upset but told me not to worry because had insurance on the ring.
Feb 5th (our 2 year ann) he proposed. he had stolen my promise ring went to our jewlers and got it upgraded for my e ring! I kept asking him if he was sure….his reponse (i’ll never forget what he said) “when you told me you were leaving i knew that i could never spend a day without by my side. i was scared and stupid and im sorry”
my advice, talk to him…seriously sit down and talk to him…..figure out what you guys want as a couple. some men think that we just want the ring….wish you luck pumpkin! keep up updated!