Post # 1
Well I am SUPER pissed right now at my fiance. From the beginning I have told him that he needs to step up and take care of his groomsmen as far as apparel, etc. I thought he heeded my words but I guess everything is twisted. At first him and his family came up with the notion that I “can’t” see what HE is wearing till the wedding. WTH?! Yall aren’t supposed to see the dress….duh….anyways I finally convinced him this was crap and I really needed to see what the groomsmen would be wearing so I can at least give some ideas to my cousin for her son (he’s the ringbearer) Well my colors are watermelon and green. I went out of my way to send his family a swatch of the actual fabric so that they could have it to coordinate whatever they were wearing to it. I felt a great ease and figured hey what could go wrong?
Well I just got a picture back of my FH brother – and he looks horrible. They are all in white suits which I don’t object to but it’s paired with a cheapo looking vest that looks BURGUNDY! I started to freak out and of course when my mom saw the pic she hated it.
So I though to myself what can we do to at least salvage the outfit – so I came up with the idea of just a white shirt and a tie coordinated to the dresses so at least they match in some way. I called my FH to tell him that the vests don’t match. He argued with me and said oh no it;s my camera but no it really isn’t…..I then explained to him I just don’t want them to go up there and look bad. It’s his day too and he should look great. I guess he didn’t get it and got mad again and hung up on me.
I’m to the point now that I’m about to say I don’t care. I don’t care that four guys are going to walk down my aisle in friggin red damn vests that don’t match and think they look good. I don’t care that my side and some of his side of the family are going to talk about it behind their backs. I don’t care what ppl think but in all honesty the outfit looks horrible. I don’t know what to do 🙁
Post # 3
Yikes that sucks. Maybe you can actually see the vest and compare it to the colour swatch with your FI, that way maybe he will see that it doesn’t match.
I’m sure that no matter what, it won’t ruin your day. Who cares what other people think!
Post # 4
@MademoiselleL: That is what I really want to do but I’m 6 hours from him and asking for time off right now isn’t an option. He claims he will come down in that latter part of June but thats the third time he’s changed the date.
Post # 5
What if they did white or grey suits with watermelon ties? Grey and watermelon look good together.
Try not to stress too much–you have plenty of time! We were changing the tux/vest orders the last 2 weeks before the wedding because the shop ordered the wrong colors. And the last wedding FI was in, the tux shop gave one of the groomsmen the wrong color combination (some icky green and brown and black thing instead of black and red) and he had to exchange it the day of the wedding! So take a deep breath– these things happen, and it’ll get resolved 🙂
Post # 6
Where are they getting their tuxes?.. maybe you can get on the site to see the actual color? I remember trying to take pics of shirts in mens wearhouse and the very purple shirt looked BLUE!
Also, our guys wore white tuxes but didn’t wear the vest and just went with ties to match their chucks… they all looked great!.. and believe me, after reading and seeing everything here on wedding be I lost sleep about worrying how’d they look with my girls but it all turned out well =)
Definitely drop the vest and just go with ties to match. That will help ALOT.
Post # 7
Is the tux place a chain? If it is, and there is one near you, maybe you can go in and double check, since it really can be the camera. I know with FIs tuxes the shop worker specifically asked for a swatch so they can match everything up. Or, maybe as a backup plan, buy however many watermelon colored ties you would need and make them swap out the vests for the ties day of the wedding if they truly don’t match.
Post # 8
From what I understand their suits did not come from a well known place :/ In the beginning I wanted them to get something from Mens Warehouse since my friend works there and could get a discount but they didnt go with it saying it was too high. I said ok – and thats when I sent them the swatch so it could at least help them to coordinate the outfits. I live in Georgia and he is in Kentucky while his groomsmen are in South Carolina.
Well he’s still mad at me and won’t even answer his phone now so :/
Post # 9
He hung up on you over a tuxedo? Is he 5? I’d be so upset. You guys need to be able to decide on this together.
Post # 10
Well we finally came to a decision – Took a surprise trip to see him and yes the color is off but not by much so they are going to keep the vests. WOO it helped SO much to see it in person