Post # 1
Going anonymous again. Perhaps some will remember my post – http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/no-longer-waiting-broken-hearted-bee
Well I was happy to get rid of my now ex-bf and went about trying to get my life back together. I have not dated because I am just not interested at the moment and really just want some time to get myself together. Besides the incredible amount of work I have to get done, I have been exercising and I am going to try my hand at gardening. I had not heard from him in almost a month, which made me very happy. I am so done with him!
I thought this nastiness was all over – until yesterday. I got a text message while at work from a number I did not recognize asking me how I felt (I am battling another cold!). I replied that I am getting better and who is this? Before I got an answer for that – I got another text saying “What time should I come over tonight?”. And in an instant, I knew exactly who it was. I replied, not tonight, in fact never. We are done! then I get a text that “Perhaps I will come over and take the pussy from the fair maiden.” I replied that would be rape and I would absolutely call the police.
By this time, I manage to block this new number. By the time I left work and went to get in my car – I found a note on my windshield that said how I f*cked up his life, broke all my promises and was a liar and a whore. But the part that got me was “I told you love is like a snake, it bites when it is stepped on. I can destroy you – your life and your career.”
I immediately returned to work and showed my supervisor the note and she called security. If they see him, he will be escorted off the property. I did some checking around with a friend of mine who is still in contact with this man’s son. Apparently since we broke up, this guy has been fired or quit BOTH of his part-time jobs, screwed up the construction projects he had been working on (to the point the people had to hire someone else to complete the work) and they soon will be out of a place to live. Oh and he apparently considers this downward cycle MY FAULT.
Bees, I swear I have not contacted him since I wrote about how badly he was treating me. I did nothing to hurt him or his jobs, I have simply avoided communicating at all costs. I have even changed where I go shopping to avoid running into him. What did I do to deserve this? Why won’t he leave me alone? This has to stop!
Post # 3
@sosadbee72: I am so sorry this is happening. I think you maybe need to consider getting a retraining order. He is being scary. You haven’t done anything wrong and deserve to feel safe and move on with your life.
Post # 4
You did not do anything. 1. Call the cops 2. Alert all of your family members and close friends. This guy does not sound stable.
Post # 5
You don’t deserve this, at all! I’m so sorry you are having to deal with such a psycho! You did the right thing though by telling your supervisor. You should also call the police if it continues. Don’t give into his actions. Don’t contact him. That’s what he wants. Do your best to ignore him but please make sure you are staying safe. He sounds like a nut job.
Post # 7
You need to inform the police and get a restraining order. Please DO NOT take this lightly…this person is threatening your life!! *hugs*
Post # 8
Oh sweetheart, you need to contact the police immediately and get a restraining order. “I can destroy you – your life and your career.” is a threat, and should be treated as such. Your ex does not sound like he is mentally stable, and he’s obviously going to great measures (i.e. getting a new number that you don’t know) to try and scare the heck out of you.
Please, contact the authorities. Alert your family, friends, and your boss of what he looks like so that they can be aware of his presence and what is going on.
NONE of this is your fault. He sounds like he is mentally sick.
Post # 9
That is a major threat. I’d be alerting the police. Next time you do get an unknown text, don’t answer it either.
Post # 10
Is it possible he’s gotten into drugs or something? I once dated a guy for a while who had formerly been a drug user. I broke up with him, he got back on drugs, he started in with the total crazy. It sounds a lot like your ex, actually — weird texts that don’t make any sense and have no context; bizarre threats like “I will ruin you” and “you will regret this” but never anything specific. In that case, I actually called his mom and tattled on him, since I knew she’d be able to do a hell of a lot more to stop him than the police could at that point. If he’s really come unglued, it may not be a bad idea to let someone close to him know so they can try to reel him in. And, of course, call the police!!
Post # 11
The cops need to know about this harassment– it’s ILLEGAL already. This freak needs a restraining order ASAP…please take care of this immediately before he completely flips shit and kills you. Take him serious.
Post # 12
Restraining order, police, and be escorted to and from work. Keep your cell on you at all times, on you, not in your purse. Maybe have him sent a cease and desist. Sorry you’re going through this.
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Post # 14
Don’t call the cops, just grab a glock and wait by the front door for his arrival. Betcha it scares him more than any flashy red lights would… Intended to be taken light heartedly… But seriously if you don’t feel safe get a restraining order.
Post # 15
Time for a PPO. In court is the last time you’ll have to see him – if he shows up.
Post # 16
Definitely contact the police. If anything, soyou have record of the threatening note in case anything else happens. If he persists, get a restraining order ASAP!