Post # 1
I never even considered flowers for our wedding, my MIL is insisting we have them, I didn’t want to fight that battle, so I gave in. Fine, she is paying, and I made it clear that I didn’t want to do the work. Well, guess what? Now I have the florist calling me, asking me to fill out their online form, asking me to meet them for a consultation. Ugh!
I straight up told them, I respect what y’all do and I trust that you will make it beautiful, so you have free reign. I have no idea what my MIL’s budget is, but as long as THEY know and stay within it, then I really DO NOT CARE. They are giving me the “Oh, come on, you care, don’t you?” line over and over and I’m just tired of it. Nope, don’t care. Show up with roses or succulents or wildflowers, pink or red or blue or polkadot. Do. Not. Care.
I would have my fiance deal with the flowers but he is terrible in dealing with people and following up on things and the flowers do not matter to him either!
What do I do here? I want this off of my plate. Ugh!
Post # 3
I’d advise the florist to contact your mother-in-law, and tell them that she’s in charge of the flowers. And tell MIL that you trust her judgment and you know she’ll make amazing decisions when it comes to the flowers, and that you want them to be a surprise. Maybe that’ll make her want to do the work.
Post # 4
I would fill out the form and do the consultation. Mine was about 20 minutes. Your MIL is trying to give you something nice for your wedding. I think you should just suck it up and pick some flowers.
Post # 5
I would just complete the form, decline a consultation, and ask the florist to pick some in season flowers that goes well with your themes or colors. Florist can also do not floral centerpieces.
Post # 6
I would tell your FMIL to do the consult and fill out the form. You said you didn’t want or care about flowers and she is in insisting and paying so tell her to do all the work.
Post # 7
Your FMIL should handle it if she wants them so bad. My MIL handled 90% of our wedding because I didn’t care to do it. I wanted to elope and she wanted to have a wedding so she planned and paid for it. If she wants them so bad then she should just make the decisions.
Post # 8
Agreed with PP’s why isn’t your MIL doing this? My Step mom was really into us having flowers (without her I would have just done something for centerpeices and decor without and saved the money) so she took control of it. I participated a little, especially with color, and certain flower types i liked etc but I didn’t have to do any of the arranging or delivery stuff or order forms etc… It was all her
Post # 9
You’re the contact because it’s YOUR WEDDING, lol. I think the least you could do is be gracious and finalize things with the florist.
Post # 10
So just meet with the florist and tell them the budget and let the florist pick it all out for you and then you won’t have to worry about anything. I’d personally be head of heels if I had someone willing to foot the bill for all my flowers!