Post # 1
I have been away from the hive for awhile now cause I have been going through some pretty rough stuff. I know this is going to sound bad but I dont keep track of my cycle….My SO always has because he is so scared we are going to get pregnant. Like is like the LAST thing on earth he would want right now. Well…I am now at least 20 days late. (I think) It could be more or it could be less. SO thinks I got my last cycle towards the end of January. I think it is from the middle of January but from what I am couting from just to be safe is Jan. 24th. I have always been iregular as well but not to where its very drastic. From what I can remember its usualy been from the 14th of the month but never the end or the beggining.
I have done A LOT of reading on the internet which is horrible! You know how it is when you self diagnose yourself….I do have a lot of signs of being prego BUT I do know these are also signs of getting your preiod or its coming. Its SO confusing! I have taken 2 tests at home and both came out negative. That was about a week ago and still no period. Im not stressing about it I just want to know if I am or if Im not. I have had no bleeding or spotting at all. Just pain everywhere from head to toe. cramps, dizzy, sick feeling…very emotional..mostly because me and my SO have been at each others throats….That is another thing….He has been so mean to me and I know he is SO stressed out about this but I cant even talk to him about it! He is making me feel so bad its making it worse. Then he got mad that I told two good friends of mine about it and he yelled at me cause he said he didint want it getting around. But then its like what does he expect me to do? hold it inside and keep it to myself?
One other big thing is I have bad depression and have been dealing with it since I was little. I have been on depression medication for a long time now and its very dangerous to take when you are pregnant since it cause major birth defects. I just stopped taking it like 2 days ago just to be sure cause I dont want to take a chance…I know thats bad as well but it scares me…I have not felt any different since I have stopped taking it. I have an appointment soon with my psychiatrist so i will go from there if I still havent gotten it by then.
If I miss my 2nd period this month I am going to see my doctor for a blood test. I hate feeling this way…I just want to know and I feel like crap. I hate that my SO isnt helping me either with dealing with this. I also wonder if there is somthing else that is wrong with me like if I have a cyst or something.
For anyone who took the the time to read this…thank you. its nice to vent and talk about this without being yelled at.
Post # 3
Take another pregnancy test, save yourself the agony of wondering! It could probably be the stress of you worrying at this point.
Also, NEVER go off anti-depressants cold turkey like that. You can have very serious side-effects and make yourself very sick. Believe me, I know.
Post # 4
I agree with Lyndzo, please go take another test. If it is still negative then you are more than likely not pregnant. I would call your doctor as well and let them know that you took another test and it was negative but you have never been this late before and see what they have to say. Also ask you doctor about BD options since you know that you don’t want a child right now it’s better to protect yourself until you are ready.
Post # 5
Not trying to scare you but i know someone who took multiple tests at home and doctor tests that rely on urine and all were negative all the way up to 4 months pregnant but when she finally got the blood one it was positive. I would recomend just going in and getting the blood pregnancy test they are more accurate and you can stop worrying about it. I hope you feel better soon and get an answer.
Post # 6
@eeerika22: Depression meds take a while to build up in your system and take a while to clear completely, that is why you haven’t noticed and change in your depression symptoms. Definately have a blood test done to make sure. Are you ony type of birth control? That would be another good thing to look into while you are getting the test done. It seems to be having a huge strain on your relationship having to worry about this each month.
Post # 7
Thank you all so much for responding. I guess I left out important information. I am not on BC…I was on it when we first started dating but our sex life has decreased majorly. It was also exspensive and it ended up being a waste of money. I would have stayed on it if it would have at least regulated me.
Post # 8
Oh sweetie. I would take a test again, and if it’s negative, make an appointment with your doctor. I had this happen to me a few months ago, where I had a random 40 day cycle in the middle of all of my perfect, 28 day cycles. Random. Totally unexplained.So it can happen.
After that, if you’re not going to be on BC, I strongly urge you to either use condoms every time or start tracking your cycle if you don’t want to get pregnant. Especially since you are on anti-depressants, I think this is extremely important for you. Yes, it is a lot of work taking your temperature and charting can be a pain, but it’s worth it if you don’t want to get on another form of BC.
Post # 9
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I will say from experience, I went from May to Sept last year without having a period at all, and taking multiple tests. I was in the middle of planning a wedding and dealing with all of that. We really wanted to be pregnant but there was just no way I was. After we got married, We weren’t really planning to TTC anytime soon…joke was on us, 2 months to the day after we got married I found out we were expecting. Stressing is part of it, but let me tell you, I was an emotional wreck and I knew that played a part as to why I didn’t get it. I had been very regular almost every month of my cycle, not on any type of BC either.
I would call your dr and see what he/she says about it. Your body could just be going through a lot of changes. Hope it all ends well!
Post # 10
I thought depression meds were only harmful in the third trimester, but maybe I’m wrong about that. Anyway, get yourself to the doctor for a blood test and to discuss what’s going on!
Post # 11
@Miss Root: thank you. After this expierance if everything is ok I will for sure track it very closely and we do use condoms everytime but it just so happenes there was an accident one time but it wasnt for the whole “session” if you will and another time where he “went” where he shouldnt have. Sorry Too Much Information.
@seg31085: Yeah that is also what i am thinking…maybe since we have been fighting so much thats why it wont come? And I have always been an emotional person due to my depression but right now it seems more intense. and thats coming from my SO.
Thank you guys so much for your feedback and time. It really helps to get some advice and other views when i cant really talk to anyone im close with.
Post # 12
@redheadem: I am not 100% sure! :/ I dont know if you guys see the comercials on tv all the time where it says “these depression medications have been linked to cause serious birth defect….” Well the one i take is on the list every time. Also when I first got on the medication a long time ago my doctor went through everything with me including when I was ready to be a mother she said I would need to get off it and there’s other things you can do for that while your pregnant. Im just scared and I dont want to take a chance, Thats why I made a appointment to go see her soon. But yes I think I am going to wait it out a little longer since my symptoms have been getting worse and that can also mean my period may be coming so we will see.
Post # 13
@eeerika22: To help relieve your stress regarding the antidepressants, according to the Mayo Clinic, the risk to the fetus is really low and is concentrated in the last half of the pregnancy. The risk is low enough that, often times, doctors feel there is more risk to the mother in going off the meds than there is to the unborn child being on them (I also take antidepressants so I’ve looked into this). http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/antidepressants/DN00007
As far as if you are pregnant, I’d take another pregnancy test (since it sounds like its been a week since you got the negatives). If it is still negative but you still have no period, I’d call your doctor and see if they’ll do a blood test.
ETA: Obviously if you determine you are pregnant, you and your doctor will need to do a risk benefit analysis for your specific situation to determine whether staying on or discontinuing your meds for the pregnancy is the best option. But don’t let it stress you out yet before you even know if you are pregnant.
Post # 14
@Mrs.KMM: Thank you so much for that information! I will deffinitly read more into that. That makes me feel a lot better about my medication.
Post # 15
Definitely make a doctors appointment pronto. From your symptoms (pain, dizziness, missed period), it could also be an ectopic pregnancy (which would explain the negative tests), which can be very dangerous if left untreated.
Post # 16
The ladies seem to be giving you very good advice on the pregnancy aspect of things, but what really stuck out to me is the way that your SO seems to be treating you.
If you are pregnant, having a baby is stressful enough without having to deal with someone who is negative, picks fights and is totally unsupportive. If he was so worried about you getting pregnant, then why didn’t he wear condoms?
In any event, I would really urge you to see someone to talk about your relationship as it seems to be incredibly unhealthy and not what you need right now. A chance to re-evaluate would do you a whole lot of good.