(Closed) I really don’t like baby showers. Does this make me a bad person?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’ve never really heard of too many women who get a baby shower invite and go, “Yesssss!” Don’t think you’re alone in that. 

(And honestly, I think the games are weird and well, infantile. Why can’t we just hang out like grown-ups?)

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MissHobbit: I think it depends on where you are in your life. When I was younger, I felt the same way. Now that I’m settling down and wanting more children, I see them as fun. I haven’t been to any cheesy ones (chocolate bar in the diaper, ect) and mine own baby shower was like a giant tea party. We did play the string game though, but we gave out prizes. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I am not a fan, so I definitely don’t think you’re a bad person! Don’t really like the traditional wedding showers either, and I’ve already told everyone I don’t want one. The whole sitting in a circle while people watch you open presents thing seems weird to me. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

I’m pregnant and I’m not fond of them myself, but I think I’ll like mine because it will not be corny. I refuse to have it be corny.

Oh, I hate wedding showers too. LOL

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I also HATE baby showers.  Perhaps its because I dont see the point in “oohhhing and ahhing” over bibs and diapers.  So lame ๐Ÿ˜‰ I already told my friends and family that when I do get pregnant, alcohol would be required at my baby shower.  I may not be able to have it, but no reason everyone else cant ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

well maybe you’re a little bit of a bad person.. haha, kidding!  no, I think that’s normal.  baby showers are uncomfortable.. I’m not sure if I ever said to myself during one, “wow, I’m so glad to be here!” I don’t think that’s possible ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I have a strong dislike of showers of all kinds.  I was guilted into my first wedding shower and guilted into three baby showers.  I would have been just as happy not to have any!  And now my boss is DYING to have a bridal shower, or engagement celebration or just something for me (she loves to plan parties), which I think is very nice, but I’d seriously rather gouge my eyes out with a dull, rusty railroad tie.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I’m not a huge fan, but if a close friend is having a baby of course I’ll go. It’s about friends sharing their friend’s happiness. I can deal with anything for a few hours.

My own shower was a surprise, so I had no say in planning it. I didn’t even think I was getting one. So it was a lot of the “lame” and “corny” games, but you know what? I just really appreciated having everyone there.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

You’re not alone, showers kill me. Maybe that’s because there’s an average of one baby shower every other month at my office.  I honestly can’t handle them anymore, there’s only so much oohing and ahhing you can do over the same pack of binkies and onesies in the office library.  I always buy a gift, but I usually skip out on the actual showers now, there’s just too damn many of them!

The last non-work baby shower I went to was a couple of years ago.  I kid you not, it was the longest shower in the history of baby showers.  My friend and I were developing an exit strategy about 3 hours in.  This girl opened presents for more than two hours.  More than two hours!!  It was absolutely ridiculous.  Let me tell you, after about 45 minutes, it becomes damn near impossible to feign excitement at baby clothes.  No amount of cookies and cupcakes can adequately ease the pain at that point.

I’m sure it’ll be totally different once it’s my turn though.  ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

You are not a bad person for not liking them. I actually have one for myself coming up, lol. I have to admit, I dont mind them. I like being able to see friends and family at these events. I also think its fun to see what themes people come up with and how the shower is arranged. This is my second baby shower, having a girl 4 years after I had my son, and I will admit I HATE the opening of presents. I dont like having all eyes on me. And honestly, people doing nice things and buy gifts for me makes me feel like a thief. Is that weird? Im not used to people throwing stuff in my “honor” or buying me things. Im a pretty self sufficient person.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Ok, here is a question. How can hosts of these showers make it more enjoyable to the guests? Or is it, if you dont like them, you just dont like them, there is no changing that?! lol

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@baileysbride2be:  if you have more than 20 gifts, have a gift opening “buddy” to assist so it doesn’t turn into a multiple-hour long process.  No gift opening should ever last longer than one hour.  Ever.  And it’s okay to rip open wrapping paper.  No one is going to die if the wrapping paper actually rips.  Act like it’s Christmas morning and you’re five years old, girl. None of that refolding the wrapping paper after unwrapping the gift, either. Oh, and  you don’t need to read every card you recieve aloud.  No one really cares except the person that gave it to you and they’re embarassed by you reading it anyway.

Shudder.  I think that one shower may have actually traumatized me.  

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