I really don't want to invite this person but should I????

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@lilac_glamour:  i wouldn’t give in, you obviously dont like this girl so she shouldn’t be there, its your day for your celebration and every time you look at her you will be taking down on your happy scale, maybe tell your parents that you don’t want that person there and also tell you sister again more forcefully that you love your sister and dont want her to be mad at you but you just dont like that person and would very much like her not to be there… and if she does that” well im not coming then” just tell her you love her and im sorry you feel so strongly about your friend having to come but its not a party about you or your friends, it is our engagement please be respectful of that. its only a few hours, you can see her late

Post # 4
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1613 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@lilac_glamour:  Do you think the girl will ruin the day? I’m in the camp of “if I don’t want you there you ain’t coming” LOL.

Why is your sister friends with a girl who said styff about you? What exactly has she said?

Either way, I think it’s ok to tell your sister “no”.

Post # 5
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11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Would your parents side with you or her? If they’ll side with you, I’d have them tell her NO.

Post # 6
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929 posts
Busy bee

Don’t give in! Whats gonna happen when the wedding invites go out? Sister: “can XZY come?” You: “no.” Sister: ” why Not? You invited her to your engagement party?” I repeat DON’T GIVE IN!!! Like you side it’s about you and your FI.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My advice would be to stand firm now.  Don’t invite her to the engagement party.   

Post # 8
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998 posts
Busy bee

She’s your sister’s friend. Even if you did like her, I wouldn’t feel obligated to invite this person.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

I wouldnt, I think your sister is being kind of selfish. It’s not her event, so she doesn’t get to choose the guest list. Since she will know lots of people there I think your completely justified in saying no. Good luck!

Post # 10
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668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@lilac_glamour:  Absolutely not! Stay firm with your sister on this, or this will justBBQ the beginning of family/friends bullying you into inviting people you don’t care for to your special events. There is no reason to invite this person to your party. Life has moved past 3rd grade and you no longer have to invite everyone to be “fair”. You are an adult and can invite the people you LIKE and LOVE to your special occasions!

Post # 12
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668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@lilac_glamour:  Absolutely not! Stay firm with your sister on this, or this will justBBQ the beginning of family/friends bullying you into inviting people you don’t care for to your special events. There is no reason to invite this person to your party. Life has moved past 3rd grade and you no longer have to invite everyone to be “fair”. You are an adult and can invite the people you LIKE and LOVE to your special occasions!

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Your sister is being ridiculous.  It’s a party your parents are throwing in you and your fiance’s honor, and you should not be required to include a friend of your sister in the party.  She is not family, so I don’t see why your sister is so insistent on this friend coming; are they attached at the hip or something?  It’s not her party or her wedding.  Your parents are hosting the party for you, so only your parents, your fiance, and you have a say in who’s invited.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

Keep in mind that if she’s invited to the engagement party, she should be invited to the wedding as well.  Since she’s not (I’m assuming) invited to the wedding, it’d be rude to invite her to the engagement party.  Remind your Mom of that.  I’ll bet she backs down from siding with your sister.

Post # 15
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337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@lilac_glamour:  No you don’t need to give in!  If she hasn’t been exactly friendly in the past towards you and gets high most of the time, I can completely understand why you don’t want this girl at your party.  Just like you said, the party is for people that love, care and support for and FI, and that you love and care for as well.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I do not have a clue as to why you are even pondering this. If you do not like this person, do not invite her. It is not like your sister has no one she knows or likes since her boyfriend and the family will be there. I thought this is a party for your engagement – not an event to appease others.

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