- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2015
My cousin is getting married. Originally it was supposed to be July, but her FI family said that it was too short notice (which it was). Now it has been changed to September, per his family’s say. My other cousin (her sister) and their mother, were planning a surprise bridal shower. Well, now that plans have changed, his family is swooping in and taking over! His sister and his mother told my cousin that “we will be in touch” about shower arrangements! They are completely shutting my aunt out of things, like going to choose cakes and reception sites and dress shopping. These people are taking control of everything. They were going to have the reception at the local squad building, which would have been free, but this was not “good enough” and said it was “too commercial”. They want it fancier, yet they don’t want to plop down money for it. Also, my cousin and her FI have decided to do the city hall thing, and his family wants to be there, leaving no room for my aunt, uncle and cousins. My cousin won’t say anything, since to her, these people are the most wonderful people in the world. Also, never mind that my aunt and uncle have given them a place to live, with ALL of her animals, when it didn’t work out with his dad because they had to pay for rent and their own food.
I say that she is in for a rude awakening. If these people are this controlling now, imagine after they marry. I think my cousin and aunt should sit down with them and tell them their true feelings before things get so bad it will blow up. And her little nieces and nephew are left out, and they were her world. Now it is his niece and nephew. My cousin and I used to be so close, and since she has been with him, she has been distant, she complains ALL the time and is just not the woman I have known since she was born. She used to have a sense of humor, but no more. She is also supposed to be my MOH, but now I am not so sure. I would love to talk to her alone, but she won’t do anything without him.