I really hate my job

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 3
6525 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@sortawaitingbee:  i have had a job like this, and I left. I didn’t quit until I had another job though. I suggest you do the same. Its not healthy. My last job was affecting me mentally and I was miserable and it was making my DH miserable. GET OUT asap. It might be hard but don’t lose faith. Something better willl come!

Post # 4
668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Toxic work environment!!! Been there and it really is soul crushing. You have a few options:

1) Figure out how to stop caring and become a drone working bee. I don’t know how to do this; good luck.

2) Find a way to focus on what the job gives you once you leave the office so you can endure. While I had my toxic job, I had to stay until a family member conquered a major medical issue and didn’t need financial help anymore. The horrible job was bearable when I focused on what it allowed me to do outside of work.

3) Find a new job and take it. Once my obligations were met, I applied to a PhD program, got accepted, and left! (I get paid to do my PhD work…not much, but just enough). If there aren’t any jobs in your field, could you take something else even if it paid less? On rough days at my current job, I toy with the idea of working at a cupcake shop where my biggest worry would be the texture of the buttercream frosting…

In a place with such a polluted dynamic, it is unlikely that the environment will change much, in my experience. At least you have the hive to vent at….

Post # 6
1327 posts
Bumble bee

Ugh, I hear ya – I’ve been in a similar situation before.  I was fresh out of school with a big pile of student loans to pay off and I was temping full time at an awful company, so I took the first job I was offered.

It was a family-owned-and-run manufacturing company – the father was the president and his daughter was the sales & marketing manager (so my direct boss).  It was AWFUL!  The president was a typical elderly dude who was very set in his ways, but his daughter was raving idiot.  Basically, he gave her a job after she was laid off or something.  The two of them would have screaming matches in the office and she’d slam doors, roll her eyes at him during meetings (and look at me for commiseration!), talk crap about him to me in my office, etc.  She’d also have loud screaming matches with the special project manager who I later learned was the president’s fiance – this woman was like, 20 years his junior, a new immigrant, and spoke almost no English.  It was such a mess.  Plus apparently my manager’s boyfriend apparently worked in the shop with her brother who I swear had crazy eyes and Date Rape Face.  He even had the creepiest voice.

Anyway, I left after 6 months.  After the 1st month I knew the job wasn’t for me but I thought I’d stick it out for a year so my resume wouldn’t look so patchy.  But 3 months in I couldn’t stand it anymore and started job-hunting aggressively.  3 months later I found my current job, which was a huge improvement! 

Good luck to you!!! 🙂

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