Post # 1
This is only my second post, but I just needed to vent. I really hate my job, and its making me into someone I don’t like. I moved to a new city 9 months ago to move in with my boyfriend. I took a job with the government doing Organizational Change type work. I have my masters in organizational psychology, and prior to this worked for a large hotel chain in Corporate doing the same function.
Within 3 months of starting, I realized that I had made a very big mistake coming here. My boss, and her right hand employee started openly arguing with each other,in meetings in front of me. They would argue about who said what, and really childish things with me sitting in the middle. I finally had enough, and told my boss that it made me uncomfortable, and she told me that next time they argue I should just step in and say something, and I told her that was not fair and was not my place to do. Right after that conversation, she went and told the woman what I had told her, and it erupted into this huge office argument where one of them went crying literally to the big boss, and he broke the team up.
Which should have fixed things but it didn’t. The collegue that I share my office with is always gossiping, and then one day, I came in the office and he told me that he had had a conversation with my boss about how our team needed more structure and how he would be a great fit for a management position (over me, and a couple others in her office) and she agreed. I was livid. Within 4 months of starting she was planning to promote my collegue to be my boss, create an entirely new position and just give it to him, and I heard this through office gossip. It ended up working out that he got a different job, but that is how my entire experience here has been.
I HATE it. I have never had a job that I hate as much as this one. The only way to get ahead here is to backstab or kiss ass, and I’m neither one of those. I try to come in everyday with the attitude that today is a new day, but it is slowly killing me, and making me sick. It is soul crushing. It has taken all of my strength not to just quit, and tell someone to f*** off. I have to stick it out unfortunately until I find something else, and I haven’t even been here a year.
Thanks for listening.
Post # 3
@sortawaitingbee: i have had a job like this, and I left. I didn’t quit until I had another job though. I suggest you do the same. Its not healthy. My last job was affecting me mentally and I was miserable and it was making my DH miserable. GET OUT asap. It might be hard but don’t lose faith. Something better willl come!
Post # 4
Toxic work environment!!! Been there and it really is soul crushing. You have a few options:
1) Figure out how to stop caring and become a drone working bee. I don’t know how to do this; good luck.
2) Find a way to focus on what the job gives you once you leave the office so you can endure. While I had my toxic job, I had to stay until a family member conquered a major medical issue and didn’t need financial help anymore. The horrible job was bearable when I focused on what it allowed me to do outside of work.
3) Find a new job and take it. Once my obligations were met, I applied to a PhD program, got accepted, and left! (I get paid to do my PhD work…not much, but just enough). If there aren’t any jobs in your field, could you take something else even if it paid less? On rough days at my current job, I toy with the idea of working at a cupcake shop where my biggest worry would be the texture of the buttercream frosting…
In a place with such a polluted dynamic, it is unlikely that the environment will change much, in my experience. At least you have the hive to vent at….
Post # 5
I really wish I could do #1 also. But I can’t. I’m driving both myself and my BF crazy right now, and really wish I could just stop caring and/or find my happy place.
I spoke to my boss today, and told her that I need to change offices and that I would like to sit in an office with someone else. She was reluctant but she agreed. Right now I’m trying to focus on the fact that the job is providing me with enough income to save towards buying our home next year, and the fact that I need medical insurance.
Hopefully, I’ll be sharing a great news story soon.
@Daizy914 – Yes, I really want to get out. I’m hoping that I could make it to my year mark, and find a job really early in the new year. I know this is not the place for me.
Post # 6
Ugh, I hear ya – I’ve been in a similar situation before. I was fresh out of school with a big pile of student loans to pay off and I was temping full time at an awful company, so I took the first job I was offered.
It was a family-owned-and-run manufacturing company – the father was the president and his daughter was the sales & marketing manager (so my direct boss). It was AWFUL! The president was a typical elderly dude who was very set in his ways, but his daughter was raving idiot. Basically, he gave her a job after she was laid off or something. The two of them would have screaming matches in the office and she’d slam doors, roll her eyes at him during meetings (and look at me for commiseration!), talk crap about him to me in my office, etc. She’d also have loud screaming matches with the special project manager who I later learned was the president’s fiance – this woman was like, 20 years his junior, a new immigrant, and spoke almost no English. It was such a mess. Plus apparently my manager’s boyfriend apparently worked in the shop with her brother who I swear had crazy eyes and Date Rape Face. He even had the creepiest voice.
Anyway, I left after 6 months. After the 1st month I knew the job wasn’t for me but I thought I’d stick it out for a year so my resume wouldn’t look so patchy. But 3 months in I couldn’t stand it anymore and started job-hunting aggressively. 3 months later I found my current job, which was a huge improvement!
Good luck to you!!! 🙂