- 10 years ago
- Wedding: August 2008
Okay, I went out with FH and his parents yesterday and bought up a bunch of things, and stopped to do tux’s.
My wedding colors are pink black and white, and thus far everything has (gee go figure…) been pink balck and white. (This was a VERY mututal decision between FH and I) The dresses for the bridesmaids, invites, paper goods, Tabel linens….EVERYTHING….right.
Well FH is trying on tux’s and his mon says "Try on the pink" and I cringe becase not only do I know he’ll hate it – I know it’s not going to look right on him, but at least she said it and I didn’t so I can avoid beeing nagged later that day….
I was right he hated it and it looked bad.
On to black vest and tie – my personal choice. Classy, simple. And, hmmmmm genius me – it matches everything….
He hates it!? How to %^$#! do you hate black?! He said he doens’t like that the two blacks don’t match – the vest and the pants…Suddenly he’s picky about clothes mathing? This is the man that to this day has to be reminded back shoes don’t go with a brown belt! Of course the "don’t match" ones a vest, one is pants – different materials!
So now I’m getting worried and his dad chirps in – "What about silver"
Silver! That’s NOT one of my wedding colrs! Are you trying to give me a heart attack here…..!?
He trys it on, he loves it. I’m sweating bullets. So I grab him, dressed in a suit MUCH too small for him pull him outside and into David’s Bridal next door and grab a balck dress and tie a pink sash around the middle and have someone hold it next to him so I can survey the damage.
It looks ok. I’m really "meh" about it. So I agree hoping that when his parents arn’t around I can talk him out of it. Now I have to incorporate silver in my boquest to balance this out and I DO NOT want a freaking silver rose boquet! I wanted pink and white, like we all agreed on in the first place and which has already been booked ( I know it can be changed…but still) I don’t handle change real well and this is huge – this is a hole new wedding clor to balance out the photos. I’m HUGE photorapher and also much to symetrical for my own good. Uneven doens’t compute in my head.
He will not budge, he hates the black. I even have explained that the florwes could look terrible in that combo or silver roses might be too grey which I don’t want at all. Not to mention the girls are getting their dresses at the end of the month and their sashes have already been bought (I bought a different sash for their dress as the one it comes with wasn’t pink enough and a material I didn’t like) so out of my pocket a $100 for sashes that are non returnable. And even if I could I woulnd’t change that.
I need help! How do I pull this all together and still feel good about it. I mean if he hates black (^%%$#$%!) what am I supposed to do? I’m really feeling a bit cornered….suddenly all this matching and planning is going down the drain – real fast!!!!
Thanks ladies!!! I know I can cout on you…where’s my xanex….