- 4 years ago
- Wedding: January 2014
FI and I set some wedding decisions in stone before we told anyone of our engagement besides our parents. one of which being my bridesmaids (i hope-havent asked them yet) and maid of honor. We will each be having 3 possibly 4 attendants to keep it small enough so that we can hang out, plan, and enjoy all the stress as friends. lol. but that brings me to a small quandry…
one of the girls and my FI were involved with one another quite a while back. It was before me, didnt last a month, and I never saw them together. is it disrespectful to ask her? she is my cousin and we were raised similar to sisters. same exact age (month apart), same initials, same grade, same private school education… you see where this is going? we graduated and moved on with our lives and now we are twenty one and Im engaged to a guy she used to be interested in. I wouldnt really be worried but at her bday party, she got a lil tipsy (ok drunk) and was getting pretty off color with FI so we left (he not pretty when something hurts my feelings). I hate to feel like im holding a drunk chick’s actions against her but other people witnessed the issue. is she an appropriate choice? she is (sober) sweet, fun, and can be great at chilling me out when Im about to blow. lol. but I dont want to do something disrespectful for their brief past and the situation a lot of people witnessed.
the other two girls are non issues, stay out of conflict, and have been in my life a long time. I couldnt imagine them not standing up with me.
MOH is his sister. We have been friends for ten years and asked her last night to be my MOH. she was thrilled but didnt know what was expected of her. Their mother passed on when she was young and she is relatively close to my mother (who has offered to help her out). Was it ok to ask someone from his family rather than mine? Ive known her much longer than Ive known him because of our age difference (11 years between me n FI)