@Erika1216: I personally believe that when a person is ready to propose and they have a ring, they are not going to postpone the proposal and pawn the ring so that they can purchase a bigger ring. Honestly, that sounds like a stalling technique. Perhaps when ring shopping with you he realized that he loved you so much and wanted to be with you, so on impluse, he purchased the ring – but then he realized that he wasn’t ready for that step. Maybe he had always hoped of being done with his undergrad degree and to be working before he proposes? Maybe he has other goals he wants to accomplish before getting engaged. Maybe, to him, when a couple gets engaged it means they are ready to get married right that second if need be. These are things that no one can answer, but him, and sadly it seems like he is either lying to you to not hurt your feelings or lying to himself and can’t admit that he made a mistake buying the ring the first time.
Regardless, if he isn’t ready to propose, then again, I strongly suggest that both of you stop looking at rings. Discuss your aspirations for the future, talk about what you want to have accomplished before getting married. Talk about where you want to be in life. After this conversation, there will be a natural engagement period. Ask your boyfriend how he views engagement. Some people feel weird about getting engaged while still in college, especially if there are any financial ties to the parents still. Getting engaged while mom and dad still pay rent doesn’t scream “ready for marriage” to some people.
As for being unreasonable, I was there. I was you, almost. DH never purchased a ring, but he took me to look at rings in college. While he and I were both in college I wanted to get engaged, but like you, wasn’t in a rush to get married. I just felt that he and I were serious, and we knew we were going to get married, so I wanted that ring on my finger to show people “Look! We’re seriously serious!” I was around 20/21 at the time, a sophmore in college I think, and DH was in his last semester. He wasn’t ready to propose, but we went to look at rings. I got so excited I thought he was going to propose on my 21st birthday! I was heartbroken when it didn’t happen. I talked to him about it, and we had a similiar conversation I am urging you to have with your boyfriend. To DH, getting engaged meant being ready to get married. While he knew he wanted to marry me, he wanted to have a job first, and he wanted me to have a job and be done with school. He asked if I was ready to get married, and emotionally, yes, I would have married him in a heartbeat, but I realized there was more to getting married than just loving him (our personal views on marriage, not projecting on to anyone else’s marriage). Since I was not in a rush to get married, I agreed to just put the whole idea of waiting behind me and focused on my relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend. Three years later (yup a whole six years together) took me ring shopping. I’d been working for about 1 1/2 years, and we were completely financially independant. To my surpise, I wasn’t all about ring shopping the moment I got a job, I was focused on my career and enjoying that new phase in my life, so when we did go ring shopping everything felt real and it felt right. We purchased a ring the second time we went shopping and he proposed 2 months later. Everything felt right. Everything felt real.
So what I am saying is, talk to him, and I mean really talk to him allow him to be open and honest, and listen to what his feelings are. Yes, I guess some could say he is just leading you on, but only you can know how much you trust him (and you’ve said you trust him completely) so trust him and let your relationship unfold at a pace you’re both comfortable with. Trust me, you’ll get over the resentment a lot faster this way, and you’ll be able to enjoy your relationship as it is now without worrying about that next step in life. It will come, and when it does, you’ll not worry about crying for the wrong reasons.