(Closed) I ruined my surprise proposal :(

posted 7 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
703 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It will be a while?  Like he’s punishing you for not being able to have xmas at his parents?  How is it your fault?

Post # 4
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Sorry to hear that but I dont understand why he told you… if you really couldnt make it to his parents for xmas why wouldnt he just propose at some other time before or after xmas  without telling you and spoiling the suprise? I dont think he had to tell you that in the argument and throw it in your face and I dont think you spoilt the suprise, I think he did.

Post # 5
1030 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I bet you he’s saying it’ll ‘be a while’ to thrown you off, but now it’ll probably be really soon so he can still surprise you!

Post # 6
504 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I agree with bells. you certainly didn’t spoil anything especially since you had no knowledge that it was going to take place at the particular time. Maybe nerves got the better of him during the argument because the plans have now changed. I would really hope he didn’t mean he would now prolong the engagement because of your schedule. You know how we say things in a argument that we truly don’t mean and regret later? Sorry you’re so sad and I really hope he has a change of heart once things calm down and he can get a new plan together.

Post # 7
979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I went through that with my Fiance, every time someone would ask or suggest it would ruin it for him and I would knew that I would never get a proposal because something always ruined his moment.  Finally it happened and I had no clue.  I would not worry, you will still be suprised because now you really won’t know when it will happen.

Post # 9
594 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Well be happy it wasn’t what my fiancé did…. He was the one who ruined his surprise proposal…. He got drunk one night, and I was suppose to be the Dirty Delete for he and his freind. He tends to get a little emotional when he drinks and that night he starts crying about how much he loves me. We had planned to go on a trip to Palma Mayorca later that winter and he started blabbing on about it.  He eventually started singing a song he said that he wrote, and he told me he even learned how to say Will you marry me in Spanish so that he can ask me on the beach (We’ve never been to the beach)… Now of course I felt more sorry for him than he did after he sobered up, but of course I was sad. We never got to go on our trip to Spain, and he ended up getting shipped out. SO he asked me to marry him at a nice little Italian restaurant outside of the base that we lived on in Germany. I kinda knew it was coming, but it was still wonderful…. He still regrets what happened the night he drank too much, and I can understand why.  Sadly I recently lost my engagement ring in May of this year and so we’ve gotten a replacement.  But he has yet to put it on my finger…. he says he wants to wait for that special moment and do things right as he felt the way it should have been the first time…. Regardless we are still getting married in 275 days… but I am still waiting on his reproposal so people can stop asking where my ring is!! LOL

Post # 10
130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

To be honest with you… I think this is a perfect story to share in the ‘waiting’ board. I’ve been trying to explain that for many guys it takes a lot of time to plan, prepare and organize the proposal day. We are about to place a ring on your finger… that you will wear for the rest of your life.

That’s a big deal! Many guys want to give you a perfect or damn near perfect day. It’s not just buying a ring and mumbling “will ya”?

I’m sure that while the original idea/plan will not occur… at the end of the day, you can be thrilled knowing… he’s going back to the drawing board. Which means… your great proposal day will still happen! 🙂

Miss Coffee knew I had already had purchased the ring. However, she didn’t know the when, what and how the proposal would take place.

If anything, guys to want to follow through in this area!

Post # 11
1020 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@Mr. Coffee: I agree with you that most guys want to plan a great proposal, but I think in this case it’s different. He’s basically saying “well I was going to do it at xxxx time but now you ruined it so you’re going to be waiting awhile”.

In MY opinion, it sounds a little mean-spiritied based on how the OP wrote it.

Post # 13
567 posts
Busy bee

that sucks! he shouldn’t have told and just let you be upset so it would’ve been a big surprise! i’m so sorry.  at least you know it’s in your near future.

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