Post # 1
I have been married for over 6 months now…and while being married to my hubby has been wonderful…and we had a beautiful and really fun wedding…I can hardly stand looking at my wedding pictures. My hair is just awful. Of all the little things that could go wrong – of course, my hair is in ALL of the pictures, so its really hard to just forget about and move on. Yes, I know things could be way worse, but all I have left of the wedding – other than memories- are my pictures and I look horrible in them 🙁 When we did our portraits outside, it was windy yet humid which really took its toll on my hair – and NO ONE bothered to tell me that it looked matted to my face and pretty much covering one of my eyes, not even the photographer who obviously had to see what my hair looked like the whole day and night!
Part of it is my fault though – The hairstyle itself was just not that great to begin with. I trusted an acquaintance (who is also a hairstylist) to do my hair. I should have known that it was a bad idea when the hair trial didn’t go well. I figured it would be fine on the actual day of my wedding…but with all the stress (family drama, etc.), my lack of sleep,and being on a REALLY tight schedule at the salon, I left the salon not fully happy. My hair actually didn’t look bad for the first hour, but looked awful in the portraits, ceremony and reception pictures. We had an expensive photographer because that was the most important vendor to me and my husband (for obvious reasons) and that was our one main splurge. It is just heartbreaking to see how wonderful everything else turned out and then having ME ruin our wedding pictures. It just really sucks because the pics are over and done with and theres no way I can ever “retake” them. We still haven’t picked out our album pictures because I have a hard time looking at myself …Aside from the horrible hair, I look tired and somewhat stressed…and I just don’t look like the bride I always wanted to be. Such a letdown…I ruined our pictures and I just cant seem to get over it 🙁
Any thoughts, ideas, words of comfort (please)….???
Thanks for taking the time to read this..I just needed to vent!
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I bet you look way better than you think you do. I’m sorry you feel that way, though. 🙁
Post # 4
Well, maybe you can’t retake all the pics, but why don’t you do a “trash the dress” session? They may not be wedding pics, but at least you’ll have some pics you like of yourself…and you don’t have to “trash” the dress…but you could take this time to find a really cool location.
I would look at this as an opportunity, then maybe afterwards, you’ll come to like the other pics too.
Post # 5
I haven’t seen your pics but spaniel is probably right – you probably don’t look as bad as you think. We tend to be much more critical of ourselves than others are. But, if you absolutely can’t stand them, then PHOTOSHOP is your answer!
Post # 6
I ruined all our of reception photos. We didn’t hire a professional photographer but I still wanted some nice pictures of us and our first dance, our cake cutting, etc.
We got married in Las Vegas in an outdoor ceremony. I used some special makeup to cover up my arm tattoos. We had a professional photographer and our family took lots of photos and they all turned out great. You can see in my avatar, no arm tatts can be seen 🙂 I was really pleased.
For our indoor reception back home, I used the same makeup to cover up my tattoos again. When we started developing all the photos that friends and family took, I was HORRIFIED. The makeup covering my tattoos turned out super bright white in every single picture. I think maybe it was the flash from the cameras made the makeup on my arms pretty much reflective. Hundreds and hundreds of photos and every single one of them I have these huge white circles on my upper arms. Like a bad tan line from hell. It looks incredibly bad and like I have some weird skin disease or something. Every last picture.
I was really embarrassed about it, every time a friend or family member would be like “look I got my pictures developed from your wedding… you look great…” except for these insanely large white spots on my arms!!! Wow, yeah I look amazing. If I had no arms!!
I cried about it first. And I photoshopped them as much as I could. But yeah, bottom line is I can’t go back. I can’t fix it. I just have to move on. I have a pretty good sense of humor about it now, it’s all I can do but to make fun of myself in the pics. It was my big day and I have to embrace it flaws and all. I’ve heard of other couples who have been disappointed with their wedding photos, going to get other post-wedding pictures done professionally of them in their wedding attire. See this post here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/wedding-photosis-this-weird it’s something you may want to consider.
Either way, it happens sometimes. Remember you are your own worse critic. I’m sure you look absolutely beautiful still and there are probably so many other things in the pictures to focus on: your makeup, your dress, your jewelry that even if your hair is less than perfect, I doubt it takes away from how you looked that day.
Post # 7
Liv, I know just how you feel! I had this little lace bolero jacket that went with my dress. When my dress came in the wrong size and they did the alterations, they came out good on the dress but the jacket looked funny because the sleeves were still too big. I was exhausted and knew I’d only wear it for the ceremony, so I let it slide. But then after the ceremony, I FORGOT TO TAKE IT OFF! It was in ALL my formal photos and I was completely distraught. No one to blame but myself. One of these days I’m going to talk my hubbs into a Trash the dress shoot, even though he doesnt know it yet.
Where are you from? If I can help you with that I certainly would be happy to. PM me if you are interested.
Post # 8
Honey we are all much harder on our selves than everyone else is. I’m sure you were beautiful. The wedding is all about the love not the photos so smile you have your wonderful husband and he LOVES his wife bad hair day or not. ((HUGS))
Post # 9
I’m sure they aren’t as bad as you think. You are probably being way to critical of yourself. can you post one of the pics so we can see and then be able to tell you that it really isn’t that bad?!
Post # 10
I’m sorry to hear that you are not happy. I say do a post-wedding photo shoot or trash the dress.
Post # 11
I agree with the other bees that it is likely not as bad as you think. Also, a day-after shoot is a perfect idea! Try not to be so hard on yourself – we put so much pressure on this one day, and, in the end, nothing is ever perfect, so it’s like we are setting ourselves up to feel disappointed.
Post # 12
Why don’t you do an Anniversary shoot?
I also am not happy with my pictures and I just cannot get over it. What has really helped is that I came up with the idea to put back on my dress….full hair and makeup…and take pictures with my hubby for our 1 year anniversary
You can’t ever get back pictures of the actual day….but maybe you can reshoot so that you can get some pictures of you…and your husband…that you are happy with.
Hang in there. I really can relate. It may seem trivial to others…but I know what it’s like to be let down…and not able to get over it.
Maybe re-shooting would make you feel a little better