Post # 1
My boyfriend and I picked out my ring and we didnt have much of an option as far as it being a surprise of when he buys it since we share a bank account. He told me it was happening very soon and planned a romantic night out for us- i knew when but not how.
Well last night I got into a stupid fight with him and told him maybe we shouldn’t get engaged, I guess I just freaked out, we’ ve had trust issues in the past but we are both totally different people than we were when we met and we’ve grown from our past mistakes. Well I found something suspicious, confronted him, he denied, I got angry and made my comment about us not getting engaged. This was all over the phone while he was at work.
Turns out I was completely in the wrong but didnt get a chance to tell him sorry and when he came home from work he was still so upset and said I had broken his heart and just came out with his engagement plans he had for this weekend- told me everything, it was everything I could have ever wished for, I would have definitely had that emotional ecstatic reaction I figured I’d have being the emotional person I am.
We did make up that night and were even laughing about it this morning. He said he is still proposing and we are still going out to dinner. I’m bummed that I ruined the surprise and only have myself to blame. My question is did anyone else know exactly how they were getting proposed to and still get emotional? I want the tears- I want him to see how happy I am that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me but now I’m afraid it will just be awkward. Kinda like peaking at your Xmas presents- it takes the fun out.
Post # 3
I knew exactly how and even knew exactly what the ring would look like – not because he told me, but bc I found the quotes from jewellers in his car, and then couldnt’ stop myself from checking the banking. We had a big night the next month planned to celebrate us quitting smoking and it just made sense he’d likely choose that night.
When I looked up the jeweller, their signature ring was EXACTLY the style I’d told my FI I loved so I figured he probably chose that ring.
Well, he proposed the night I thought with the ring I thought he’d have… So I wasn’t surprised it happened, but I still wasn’t expecting the exact moment that he chose, and what he’d say. Even tho I was sure it was coming that night, you still get that shaky, crazy emotional feeling because IT’S ACTUALLY HAPPENING! no matter how much you play it in your head, when it actually happens, it’s surreal
Post # 4
I had a very similar situation to yours.
About 2 months ago we went and got my ring finger measured, then I picked out a ring. About a month or so ago we had an argument that he was keeping a secret from me (that turned out to be the proposal) and he said that he was going to propose while we where on holiday and I felt so bad, like I’d ruined it all.
Well 3 days ago on holiday he did propose to me. Even though I knew it was probably coming, and knew what the ring was like it was surreal. I wasn’t expecting it to be so exciting because I’ve already been acting like we’re engaged since we got my finger measured but actually having the ring and announcing it to friends and family has been so crazy.
Good luck 🙂 It doesn’t need to be perfect, don’t worry. My fiance just put the ring on our bed and it didn’t fit (jewelers got the wrong size) but it was still awesome.
Post # 5
@Bunny123: We were in Atlanta for a Magic tournament the weekend of my proposal. Saturday night, after the tournament, we all went out to a local bar. Big mistake.
I don’t drink often. When I do…I DRINK. We ended up getting into a fight because I didn’t want to leave the bar. Yep..typical drunk me. It was a BAD fight by the time I got to the hotel room. He spilled the beans and told me I ruined my propsal. Lots of crying.
We went to the aquarium the next morning after major cuddling that night. He proposed there. Even though we had a drunken rift the night before, it didn’t taint my memory of the minute he got down on one knee and said all those beautiful things I can’t remember because I started sobbing instantly.
We picked out the ring beforehand. I knew he was going to propose soon, so much I guessed it would be that weekend.
We don’t fight at all really, but it just so happens we had a huge fight mere hours before we were engaged.
As much as I wanted that fairytale moment, shit happens. I can make up for it at my wedding.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2014 - Restaurant
I don’t know why he had to tell you the whole plan just because he was upset. Seems like a jerk move. He should plan something else and really surprise you, IMO.
My boyfriend and I got into a fight on a recent vacation and he told me that he was upset because he was “going” to propose on this vacation but “the ring wasn’t ready yet.” I got super pissed about him saying that though, and he apologized later. I know he was just upset and I’m glad he didnt propose on that vacation because things were just off all week. Needless to say, I am still waiting and it’s been 2 months since then, but I have no one but myself to blame I guess.
Post # 7
@lucygirl1: I’ve just had a similar thing. SO and I got into a fight last weekend, and he has said now that any engagement will be delayed, but that he does still very much want to be with me.
What upset me the most is that he said he had an awesome plan of how he was going to propose, and that it was a one off thing, and he wanted to tell me! I said no, because why would I want to know what he would have done, now he’s not going to ask anymore
Post # 8
My FI usually is not very good at secrets. I picked out the ring myself, we talked about when it would happen, and where would be our ideal location (Venice, Italy, this summer). I knew he had the ring with him, and I knew the exact day when it would happen (we only stayed for a day and a half, so there wasn’t really much time to choose from). The evening before, we got into a huge fight.. The stress from the trip, and probably nervousness about the impending proposal..Still, we made up and the next day when we were walking through Venice all of a sudden he stopped, got super nervous and after a short but really sweet speech got down on one knee and proposed. I was beyond thrilled. There were no tears, and we were both kind of embarrassed because a bunch of tourists observed us, but we were so happy and it didnt matter at all to me that there wasn’t a big “surprise moment”.
So I think it isn’t so bad if there is not a big movie moment.. The promise between you and your future husband is special in itself. 🙂
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2014 - TTC #2
@Bunny123: I suspected what day; still bawled from happiness!!
Post # 10
since i knew all of the details about the actual proposal i guess i did ruin it, didnt exacly help that we had a massive argument about it
Post # 11
Thank you for all the replies! I actually got teary eyed when he was down on one knee and then had a giggle fit afterwards from I guess my excited nervousness and not being able to control my happiness, like “did this really just happen”. It’s true that you cant predict the feeling of that moment intil your in it.
Post # 12
@beckylouise7: but did it change once he actually proposed- like during asking you? Or was the proposal a part of the making up?