Post # 1
I am a pretty hardcore runner. I’ve done seven half marathons and am aiming to PR at a couple of half marathons this fall, with sights set on a spring full marathon after the wedding. I basically run the miles that most full marathoners do – 33-50 / week. Right now it is on the lower end. I also cross train using spin 2-3 days per week
The end result is that I run about 4-5 days per week, after work.
One of my friends implied that I am selfish and/or neglecting my wedding-duties because I spend so much time running/training.
I love running…the idea that it is selfish just feels…mean, idk? I don’t want to stop running just because I am getting married. It’s not like I am going to do a 20 miler on my wedding day and miss the festivities.
I should add that my fiance works nights 4-5 days per week and comes home at midnight- what am I really expected to do after work that is wedding related? I’m not DIY’ing anything because I have zero skill in terms of making things look nice and/or being crafty. My friends are mostly out of town these days. The only thing I’m having a hard time squeezing in is a manicure- and I figure I can do that the day before my bridal shower.
Oh…and I’m less than glam. My left foot has a questionably existent toenail and I have a giant bruise on my calf.
Am I selfish for having a hobby and goals?
Post # 3
I don’t understand how this is selfish.. it’s your wedding… lol I mean unless you were putting all the tasks off to your friends and family and not doing anything yourself… but this doesn’t sound like the case! Keep up the running!!!!
Post # 4
@jouissance: Not selfish at all. Wow, I’m surprised a friend would tell you that, some friend. Seriously, though, you should keep doing what you love doing and don’t worry what anyone besides yourself and your Fiance thinks about it.
Post # 5
How odd. No, you’re not selfish. You’re awesome for being fit and taking care of your health by running!
Post # 6
No way is this selfish!
My Darling Husband has a schedule like yours (2 hours a day, 5 days a week). I think it’s healthy and I like watching his races.
The only problem that I’ve ever had with his training (he’s not a runner though) is that he can’t enjoy going on vacations with me unless he’s worked out. He tries hard to put me first though and he’ll run before I wake up.
Post # 7
Wow, I’m impressed by all of your running! That is awesome!
I don’t think you are being selfish at all with a hobby like that especially if it is not interfering with your wedding planning. Weddings last a day, hobbies can last a lifetime so, no, I would not give up running for wedding planning.
Post # 9
I’m not sure how long you’re running for, but many of my bride friends (including myself) work out for at least an hour in the gym every night. No one has ever said a word!
Post # 10
I was confused when I read the title, and I’m still confused after reading the post, as how your friend truly deems this “selfish”. Whaaat?
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
That sounds like a mean-spirited comment to me.
There’s nothing wrong with your exercise, and it’s not like hubby-to-be is waiting at home anyway. Enjoy your runs, and ignore her comment.
So long as you feel like your life is on track, nothing else matters.
Post # 12
@LiliKitty: I felt exactly how you felt, and was so confused I couldn’t even write anything to comment, so I just +1 somebody’s.
Post # 13
Honestly, if you are not DIY ing what IS there to do wedding related? I am not DIY ing anything. I feel like I do nothing wedding related ever except make phone calls, sign my name and write checks.
Post # 14
OMG so many answers in such a short period of time !!! Love this. Thanks, ladies. I figured as much- I didn’t think there could really be a difference between spending 2 hours taking pilates and then sitting on the elliptical versus running.
I run about an hour 4x per week and 2 hours 1x per week. Spin is 45 min and I only do that when I feel like it to be social.
My friend won’t do anything without her husband…I think that’s why. Meanwhile, i’m a really independent person and kind of love that time with me, my headphones and the road…or even just girl time with the ladies.
@Ballet513: that is me. My only DIY is clicking puchase on Etsy and putting the bridesmaids gifts in bags. Oh, and buying margarita mix to go in those bags.
Post # 15
OMG, you’re SO not selfish. I thought you were going to say some crazy thing like you run 5 hours a day and never see your husband. When I’m marathon training, I’m running as much as you’re talking about and I’ve never thought twice about it.
Post # 16
If you’re selfish, then so am I! I love running! It’s my stress outlet and miss it so much now that I’m pregnant. I think the fact that you do it while your Fiance is working is even better. It’s not like you’re using all of your time that you could be spending with him to run. I say more power to you and good luck on your PR and the marathon!