I said yes, Do I have to show FMIL?

posted 3 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Should I share dress with FMIL
    Yes, Share photos : (34 votes)
    41 %
    No : (40 votes)
    48 %
    Just share link : (9 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1158 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @mcl923:  I was in a similar situation as you when I bought my dress. I did show my FMIL a picture of me in the dress but nothing else. She didn’t come shopping with me at all, but I felt like I should keep her in the loop only when I made my final decision. She was happy that I showed her.

     

    Do whatever you feel comfortable with. If she asks and you’re not comfortable showing it to her, state that you’re keeping it a surprise for the big day!

    Post # 4
    Member
    1400 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I don’t know anything about your relationship with your FMIL, but you don’t HAVE to show anyone any pictures of your dress. For me, my FMIL doesn’t have any daughters, and I went with her to a wedding dress shopping appointment, and she really appreciated the gesture. Maybe just showing her a picture and talking about it next time you see her in person would be nice.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2111 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Why don’t you want to share the picture of you in it? I could give a better yes or no if I understood your reasoning. Not wanting to share the online link I get because of price, but I don’t see the problem with sending her the one of you.

    Post # 6
    Hostess
    7630 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    @HonoraryNerd:  I’m wondering the same thing.

    You don’t HAVE To show your dress to anyone. I think I showed my FMIL a picture of the dress myself. Only my closest friends asked me about the dress and I showed them. If you don’t want to show someone I would just say “The store didn’t let me take photos.” 

    Post # 7
    Member
    1535 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I don’t understand why you wouldn’t want to show her. Other people, yes, don’t show them though if you don’t want too

    Post # 8
    Member
    417 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Nope.  You can keep those pics as private as you want.  One of my best friends wouldn’t even hint to anyone what her dress looked like.  Her family knew and no one else knew anything besides the fact that it was ivory.  She didn’t want anyone to see it until she walked down the aisle.  Its totally up to you who, if anyone, you show your dress to.

    Post # 9
    Member
    1103 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Yes, why not show her?

    Post # 10
    Member
    2151 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    Well, technically you don’t have to show anyone photos of you in the dress. Personally? I couldn’t imagine not sharing photos of me in my dress with my FMIL. There are very few people that I believe should be in that small group of people that can see me in my dress before the big day: my bridal party, my mom, and my FMIL. Is there a reason why you don’t want her to see you in the dress before the wedding?

    Post # 12
    Member
    839 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @mcl923:  No, you don’t have to.

    I recently made the decision to keep my dress a secret from my FMIL. To be frank, I don’t trust her not to blab it to the world. Also, she’s a very overbearing person, and I just know that she will give me her opinion on every. single. thing. regarding my wedding day “look” – hair accessories, shoes, jewelry, et al. I decided that, as a gift to myself, I wasn’t going to put myself through that. 

    Ultimately, you don’t have to show anyone if you don’t want to. When people ask me, I just say I’m keeping it a surprise. So far, people have understood this and haven’t given me a hard time about it. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    2111 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    @mcl923:  In that case, I can understand just showing her a stock photo. It keeps her in the loop and happy without sharing too much. Just say you weren’t allowed to take pictures in the shop.

    Post # 15
    Member
    546 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    don’t send her the link if you don’t want her to see the price. Just save the picture of the model in the dress…and send her this pic..that’s what I did when I got my dress..

    Post # 16
    Member
    839 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @mcl923:  Haha, I feel your pain. I think that’s a great compromise! I would have done that too, but I made the mistake of emailing her a whole bunch of pictures from my initial dress shopping trip (oops). So she already has a picture of me in the dress, and there’d be nothing I could do to stop her from showing everyone under the sun if she knew which dress I picked. 

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