Post # 1
We went on a cruise and there was a hotel and outdoor glass room right near the ocean. When we arrived, a wedding was about to begin. The site was really pretty, since it was right on the water. The bride came out of the hotel (which was quite a distance, but we could clearly see it). WEll, long story short, it took her longer to get to the ceremony than the ceremony lasted. I think if I had to guess, the ceremony was about 7 minutes. I cannot believe I am killing myself planning for something that lasts such a short time! Is this what people expect when they go to a wedding?
Also, the bride had on a short ivory/beige dress and bright white FLIP FLOPS. Wow. Either I am old-fashioned, or that was tacky. Her hair was very formally done in an updo with sparkles in it. Ah, well, to each her own. But, the brief cerremony is what is really just totally freaking me out. I’ve only been to a handful of weddings, but I don’t remember any being this brief!
Post # 3
Mine was only about 10 minutes long. You can make it as long or as short as you want – its your wedding. I was more concerned with partying with my friends and family and enjoying the fact that we were finally husband and wife for real!
Post # 4
It really depends on the ceremony. In my experience, secular weddings tend to have shorter ceremonies than religious weddings. My ceremony was an hour, but that’s because I had a full Catholic Mass. One of my friends got married and her’s was 15 minutes. It’s your ceremony so it’s your choice on how long it lasts.
Post # 5
I would LOVE for my ceremony to be 7 minutes long. I’m really not at all looking forward to standing up for an extended period of time with all eyes on me and my FI. It makes me want to barf just thinking about it. I have anxiety issues when it comes to stuff like that so for brides like me, short and sweet is the way to go with the ceremony.
Post # 6
I think ours will only be about 10 minutes. I’m really nervous about standing in front of a bunch of people and pouring my heart out. We’re just sticking the basics, saying our own vows, kissing and we’re out!
Totally feeling you on the beige dress/white flip flops and the sparkly hair though. Not my cup of tea at all.
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I’ve seen plenty of brides in flip flops. I personally wouldn’t do it, but I have no problem with it. Why not be comfortable? And it’s on a cruise ship, not a the Four Seasons.
Post # 8
My ceremony will be quite short. Luckily someone who is close to both my FH and I is an ordained minister or else we would have just hired a JP and it probably would have been around 10 minutes long. We’re only hoping to have the ceremony last about a half hour though.
But, white flip flops are definitely tacky!
Post # 9
I wish mine had been shorter. I think we clocked in between 15 and 20 minutes, and it was just a bit too long for my tastes. Yes, people want to witness your marriage, but they are really there to CELEBRATE with you, which doesn’t really happen until the reception.
Post # 10
To each her own. I personally love it short, the meaning is what matters.
Post # 11
My ceremony was about 10-15 minutes tops and I think that’s more the norm for outdoor/cruise/otherwise secular weddings.
Post # 12
Most weddings that I’ve been to have been short. There’s really not much to do other than walk down the aisle, officiant talks, you repeat, exchange the rings, say vows, its over. Really, most aren’t very long. You can make it longer if you want by getting married in a church and doing the whole mass (for catholic churches anyway) that would add about 30 min. You can also have a unity candle and have both sets of parents light a candle then you and FH each take a candle and light another candle.. you can add poems or songs.. you can add releasing of butterflies or doves. If you’re jewish you can add some readings or breaking of the cup (I’m not sure what the correct term is for this…) but overall, I think usually the ceremony is usually short unless you have a religious ceremony. Maybe it was just because you were watching from afar and weren’t “there” in the moment that it seemed weird??
Post # 13
I’ve been to weddings that were 2 hours long! I’m hoping mine just lasts an hour and that’s if I’m lucky because we’re having an Orthodox Chrisitan ceremony 😛
Post # 14
@DutchBride21: 2 hours?! Was that a religious ceremony? The longest ceremonies I have been to were either Catholic or Greek Orthodox, and both clocked in at about an hour.
Post # 15
@Edina LOL Yes. I grew up in Chrisitian Pentacostal church and weddings there are not what anyone I know would be used to. First of all EVERYONE in the church is invited. No such thing as invitations. And that goes with the reception as well. THen all the different choirs have to sing and there is the sermon and don’t get me started on the procession…lol Things have toned down a bit, but some of those rules are still in place. I don’t attend this church anymore and my wedding will be invite only…lol My fiance is half Armenian so we’ll do the Chrisitian Orthodox ceremony.
Post # 16
The first time I went to a non-Catholic wedding I was pretty surprised at how short it was!! It was about 10 minutes as well. Since then I’ve been to secular ceremonies that are up to 45 min long and religious ones less than 15 min, just depends on the couple.
But the length (or lack thereof) doesn’t take away from the beauty of the ceremony! One of the most beautiful ones I attended was even less than 10 minutes and very informal.