I Should Have Called It Off

posted 1 year ago in Emotional
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Buzzing bee

He lives in another state? …. this contradicts your post from about 10 months ago.

 

based on your previous posts, it sounds like you guys have had a tumultuous relationship. Do you think it’s time to put the needs of your child ahead of this moron? I personally wouldn’t let himback in my house until some sort of legal arrangement was made- like child support and understanding if you’re married or not.

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Busy bee
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  • 1 year ago

Good for you! You deserve better, and most importantly your son deserves better too.

Im not sure if your married or how that works.  But I say figure it out quick, and consult a lawyer. Its time to move on…

 

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Bumble bee

@notsurewhat2do:  *BIG HUG*

I would contact your local registrar where you obtained your liscense and see what the legal proceedure is now.

At this point, you might be able to get the marriage annuled?

Good luck dear!

PS-I’m a paranoid person but I’ve seen this happen: PLEASE make sure that mutual friends and family know the truth of what is going on so he does not get a chance to lie about why you left!!

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Helper bee

Why do women set out to tell the other woman? Your problem is with HIM, not her. 

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Bumble bee

@dmk90716:  Reading OPs post it seems that the other woman has no clue that the man is married. She needs to know this.

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Bumble bee

@notsurewhat2do:  So according to them you are legally married even though he refuses to sened in the certifcate?? What state are you in?

I’m so sorry OP. I would be calling him everyday to end this. I would be calling his parents too.

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Sugar bee

Honey I’m so very sorry! What a hurtful, terrible situation for you and your son. Your ex is a horrible person, and honestly you’re lucky to be rid of him. I can’t believe he would feed you that crap over Christmas so that he could essentially have some company while she was away.

I don’t *think* you’re married, but that depends on the laws in the state in which you had the ceremony. As far as I know, you aren’t legally married until the license is filed with the county/state. That may just be the law in my state, and I highly recommend looking into your state’s laws to get the full answer.

You deserve so much better. It may be a terrible thing for me to say, but I hope you aren’t legally married so that the separation process is easier for you. ((Hugs))

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Buzzing bee

If the other woman knows he has a child, wouldn’t the obvious be that there is a mother? He can’t be “in love” with someone that doesn’t even know he is a parent. 

 

irregardless, he’s not worth your time. I wouldn’t focus your time and energy on hating the other girl, this is all his doing.

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Blushing bee

I’m so sorry :( I don’t understand him caring more about her than his family, that’s just terrible. I guess the bright side is that now he can’t waste any more of your time and you can head toward a better future for you and your child.

I agree that the other woman should know. She’s not responsible for what happened, no, but she should know that this guy just got married – especially if he’s intentionally keeping it from her because he knows she wouldn’t approve. I don’t think another woman should head into a relationship with this sort of guy blindly.

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