I should have never gone ring shopping…

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
47 posts
  • Wedding: September 2015

@MissStruggles:  no!  i am sure things will turn out well.


in the meantime perhaps talk money w/him?  do you guys live together?

Post # 4
2264 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MissStruggles:  Aww don’t feel discouraged. Maybe your SO is trying to throw you off his trail so when he does propose it will come as a complete surprise. Keep your head up. It sounds as if your SO is on the right track by giving you a time frame and a budget to work with. =)

Post # 5
3394 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@MissStruggles:  🙁  Awww, that sucks. But hey, maybe he was just trying to throw you off the scent. You never know. Sorry you were disapointed. 

Post # 6
483 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MissStruggles:  Same thing happened to me ..we went shopping together found a ring and it was in the budget he set and he was suppose to put a down payment on it the following monday. However tht money had to be used for something else and he wont kno when tht situation would b cleared up to save to get the ring. It wouldn’t be soo bad if one ring shopping wasn’t as fun as i hoped hard finding a rose gold e-ring in the bahamas on a budget at tht. Also it mite be gone before he get to save the money. The one i saw i haven’t seen on this site or anyother site and the store we got it from doesn’t have it in their cataloge either so it wouldn’t be easy to find. Then I realised when he started to put to much pressure on himself to get ring ..i never wanted a $1600 ring and told him this i told him he’s worth more then tht ring. It sucks and yea there will be a wait longer then you expected or wated but thing work out and happen for a reason. Stay positive you never kno it mite not take him as long as you may think and he cud be trying to throw you off a bit enjoy the relationship you have everything will fall in place for you .

Post # 8
4134 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Uuuugghh how frustrating. I really hope he was just saying that to make you think he’s not buy secretly is ..,

Post # 9
478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MissStruggles:  HA about the cats. But to the other stuff, boooooo. I know it won’t make you feel any better but my fiance was behind his (self initiated) timeline too. It’s good you’ve done this shopping trip and given him a little nuge/reminder. The fact that he’s asking you how it went and has been ring shopping with you in the past is a very good thing! But yeah yeah, I wasn’t suuuper patient at the time either.

Post # 10
1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

He probably just hadn’t clicked before that maybe he would need to actually scrape some money together. He also might not have thought about it if you hadn’t found a set you were in love with yet.

My dream ring right now costs £150 and has free shipping,  my boyfriend’s opinion on the matter is currently “I’m glad I can’t afford this right now ” so really, you’re doing quite a bit better than I am I think haha

Post # 11
201 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

This happened to me, too! I got all excited when, months after ring talk started, he said we should go shopping. Then he gives me next year. Bah. Then we eloped! I still don’t have an engagement ring from him, lol.

Post # 12
136 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I felt exactly like you… All of my friends were either getting engaged, getting married or having a baby and I was like sweet.  I live w/the SO and have two kittens.  They are awesome though  🙂

It will come though, I PROMISE. The ring is in my house and I am just waiting for it now.  For now enjoy the last little bit of time where he’s just your boyfriend.  I keep thinking about that part.  Like “aw this is our last 4th of July as just boyfriend and girlfriend”.  Silly things like that will take your mind off the ring.  At least it did for me!

Another thing I want to point out.  We have joint savings accounts so I didn’t think he had any money saved up for a ring.  He must have had it stashed in an account I didn’t know about.  Right up until he got the ring he kept saying how he still needed to save more.  Guys like to be tricky about that stuff so you never know.  Maybe he has a secret savings!

Post # 14
5208 posts
Bee Keeper

Have you considered getting a smaller ring for now and maybe trading it in for a bigger ring later? That might expedite things.

Post # 15
3249 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Olive12:  Sounds likely.  It’s what I would do.

Post # 16
224 posts
Helper bee

@MissStruggles:  I totallt feel your pain. My SO refuses to do a layaway on my e-ring too and I’ve been trying to convince him that it’s the best way to do it since he knows he has that obligation. Sigh. I should’ve never gone ring shopping either :-(. But I’m hopeful for both of us 🙂

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