Post # 1
One of my good friends wanted to go ring shopping since her boyfriend told her to go look around without the pressure of him being there first to get an idea of what she liked, problem was she didnt want to go alone so I agreed to be her wingman. And hey, its a good chance for me to check it out too since my SO liked the idea. All day we looked at sparkley things and she found the ring! She is absolutely in love with her choice. What I learned is that the only ring that I really liked from the five places we went was a e-ring and wedding ring set that was $3699. Much lower then the ones that my SO and I looked at a few months ago. Today he asked how it went and I told him that I found something under the budget that he gave me six months ago. (I tried not to sound as exited as i really was). He then comes to admit that he should start saving so he can get a ring for me someday…. Sooo basically he hasnt been saving at all up to this point and refuses to have to pay off the ring. My timeline just got a lot loonnger. By the time he gets serious about it i will surley be an old spinster with ten cats.
I am currently one cat down, nine to go.
Post # 3
@MissStruggles: no! i am sure things will turn out well.
in the meantime perhaps talk money w/him? do you guys live together?
Post # 4
@MissStruggles: Aww don’t feel discouraged. Maybe your SO is trying to throw you off his trail so when he does propose it will come as a complete surprise. Keep your head up. It sounds as if your SO is on the right track by giving you a time frame and a budget to work with. =)
Post # 5
@MissStruggles: 🙁 Awww, that sucks. But hey, maybe he was just trying to throw you off the scent. You never know. Sorry you were disapointed.
Post # 6
@MissStruggles: Same thing happened to me ..we went shopping together found a ring and it was in the budget he set and he was suppose to put a down payment on it the following monday. However tht money had to be used for something else and he wont kno when tht situation would b cleared up to save to get the ring. It wouldn’t be soo bad if one ring shopping wasn’t as fun as i hoped hard finding a rose gold e-ring in the bahamas on a budget at tht. Also it mite be gone before he get to save the money. The one i saw i haven’t seen on this site or anyother site and the store we got it from doesn’t have it in their cataloge either so it wouldn’t be easy to find. Then I realised when he started to put to much pressure on himself to get ring ..i never wanted a $1600 ring and told him this i told him he’s worth more then tht ring. It sucks and yea there will be a wait longer then you expected or wated but thing work out and happen for a reason. Stay positive you never kno it mite not take him as long as you may think and he cud be trying to throw you off a bit enjoy the relationship you have everything will fall in place for you .
Post # 7
@MissStruggles: *sigh* Oh how I feel your pain. 3 cats down, 7 to go.
Post # 8
Uuuugghh how frustrating. I really hope he was just saying that to make you think he’s not buy secretly is ..,
Post # 9
@MissStruggles: HA about the cats. But to the other stuff, boooooo. I know it won’t make you feel any better but my fiance was behind his (self initiated) timeline too. It’s good you’ve done this shopping trip and given him a little nuge/reminder. The fact that he’s asking you how it went and has been ring shopping with you in the past is a very good thing! But yeah yeah, I wasn’t suuuper patient at the time either.
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
He probably just hadn’t clicked before that maybe he would need to actually scrape some money together. He also might not have thought about it if you hadn’t found a set you were in love with yet.
My dream ring right now costs £150 and has free shipping, my boyfriend’s opinion on the matter is currently “I’m glad I can’t afford this right now ” so really, you’re doing quite a bit better than I am I think haha
Post # 11
This happened to me, too! I got all excited when, months after ring talk started, he said we should go shopping. Then he gives me next year. Bah. Then we eloped! I still don’t have an engagement ring from him, lol.
Post # 12
I felt exactly like you… All of my friends were either getting engaged, getting married or having a baby and I was like sweet. I live w/the SO and have two kittens. They are awesome though 🙂
It will come though, I PROMISE. The ring is in my house and I am just waiting for it now. For now enjoy the last little bit of time where he’s just your boyfriend. I keep thinking about that part. Like “aw this is our last 4th of July as just boyfriend and girlfriend”. Silly things like that will take your mind off the ring. At least it did for me!
Another thing I want to point out. We have joint savings accounts so I didn’t think he had any money saved up for a ring. He must have had it stashed in an account I didn’t know about. Right up until he got the ring he kept saying how he still needed to save more. Guys like to be tricky about that stuff so you never know. Maybe he has a secret savings!
Post # 13
Thanks for all the advice and kindness girls!
I had a minor meltdown and asked him why he wasnt exited to settle down because whenever i bring anything up about it i get a negetive response and it feels terrible! Turns out he was trying to throw me off his trail…did a way too good of job. turns out hes been ring shoppig for months, planning on buying it in October. thats only a few months away!!
Post # 14
Have you considered getting a smaller ring for now and maybe trading it in for a bigger ring later? That might expedite things.
Post # 15
@Olive12: Sounds likely. It’s what I would do.
Post # 16
@MissStruggles: I totallt feel your pain. My SO refuses to do a layaway on my e-ring too and I’ve been trying to convince him that it’s the best way to do it since he knows he has that obligation. Sigh. I should’ve never gone ring shopping either :-(. But I’m hopeful for both of us 🙂