Post # 1
I reeeeeeeaaally wish I would have had some foresight and NOT have told anyone we were trying. I made an unbelievably fatal mistake of mentioning it to a coworker (over a few friendly glasses of vino last weekend), so naturally the entire staff now knows I am trying. Ok, not too big of a deal (not that I care for my business to be spread with total strangers) but I was beyond sick of people coming up to me with this creepy smile and wide eyes going, “sooo anything to tell me?” Um. No. Considering I think I’ve talked to you twice in the 3 years I’ve been working here but thanks ever-so-much for reminding me why I never cared to talk to you in the first place.
So since starting back to work last week I have counted 11 people I know and 4 people I really don’t know approaching me and asking me if I’m pregnant. And every time I see the coworker I spilled the beans to she gives me this big excited smile and gushes about her own pregnancies and I smile and nod along while silently strangling her in my brain. Why do people feel the need to spread your business like this? And why do perfect STRANGERS feel the need to get up in my business??
But the icing to this shit-storm cake is this: One of my coworkers actually had the audacity to question me about my position and inquire about if I would put in a good word for her to take my position when I take my maternity leave because “well you’ll never regret those years home with your child and I’m sure you’ll make the right decision when the time comes.” ExCUUUUSE me?!?!??! You dare make assumptions and give me your vapid opinion on my career aspirations based on a hypothetical pregnancy that you heard a rumor about and decided to try and claw your way to MY hard-earned position?! I don’t even like you and I’m CERTAINLY not trusting you to do my job!
Seriously. I think I’m going to start telling people I hit early menopause at 29. I hate people today.
Sorry Bees. Thanks for letting me rant. Carry on!
Post # 3
UGH! People just need to mind their own damn business. I’d tell that coworker of yours “Honey, don’t get your hopes up…” and walk away. Snarky, I know. But sheesh!
Post # 4
I understand being super excited and telling someone about you TTC, but that co-workers of yours, who spread the news needs to be b!tch slapped for realzzzz!!!!! and the other one? well, she can get some cat slap action too!!! (((HUGS))) hopefully these all stops soon!
Post # 5
Wow that sucks. I’m definitely keeping it to myself when DH and I start.
Post # 6
@the_newlymintedmrs-s17: Holy crap would I be pissed. I’m sorry!
Post # 8
A lot of that is just terrible manners, and the coworker never should have said anything. I’m sorry she blabbed to everyone.
However, and I am aware many people will not agree, some people — the ones you never talk to, but say “Sooo anything to tell me?”, with a creepy smile and wide eyes — may be genuinely excited. That’s just what the prospect of new little ones does to a lot of people. You don’t have to tell them, of course but try to keep in mind that these people may just be excited for you.
A firm, but not too aggressive, statement that makes it clear that everything regarding your reproductive endeavor is under wraps may be in order. You could even reply to those questions with “Mum’s the word” or “I don’t want to jinx it”.
Post # 9
@MRSsrm85: DONT. TELL. ANYBODY! Not worth it! I mean people naturally ask and I get that but I was under the misguided impression that I could trust this person since I’ve kept what she shares with me private. this is what happens when you assume!
@CocoLoco523: @MrsR4ever: @chocolatevodka: @UK Bride: Thanks for the sympathy. Seriously, who asks about taking your position when you’re not even pregnant yet? Hell who asks about taking your position even if you ARE pregnant?? Whatever. I’m just going to burst into tears every time someone asks. Better them think I am emotionally unstable and can’t get pregnant than actually pregnant apparently…
Post # 10
I think you should look your coworkers in the eyes, wide eyed and with a creepy smile and ask them if they’re having unprotected sex too.
Post # 11
Why didn’t you ask her not to say anything? Or once she did spread it around, ask her not to do it anymore?
Post # 12
I have no idea why people don’t mind their own business. I would never ask someone those questions. That is just not my place.
Post # 13
@the_newlymintedmrs-s17: OMG, yikes!!! I’d probably tell all the nosey people I had a MC or found out I was infertile so they’d leave me alone!!!
Post # 14
I would have asked that lady why she chose to open her mouth about something like that. And you know what? Even though the dmaage is already done, I STILL would ask her. And then I would inform her that if she expects you to share any more exciting information with her, she is dead wrong.
Post # 15
@Jellybones: LOL! I’m taking this advice. This is too good! Thanks for the laugh 🙂
@crayfish: @megz06: Honestly I thought it was just girl code you didn’t say anything about this kind of stuff. I mean essentially its your sex life they’re sharing in a way and its private until you make it public to people you arent as close with but oh well. Now I know… I don’t know if I need to say something, she happened to overhear the coworker ask about my position and kind of hid her face from me for the rest of the day, although the glare I shot her probably helped send the message “See? this is why you don’t say anything dumbass!”
Post # 16
@the_newlymintedmrs-s17: This situation totally sucks, but as hard as it might be, I would also say something to the girl who blabbed. she needs to know that she f*cked up… And you might even try to enlist her help nipping it in the bud with the coworkers she squealed to, also. She could do her part to help out by telling them something like, “I wasn’t supposed to tell this to anyone and the comments are really bothering her,” or even a blatant lie like, “I misunderstood what she told me and the ttc rumor going around is untrue so please don’t spread it!”
I’m so sorry this happened! :/