I should have never told people we were TTC…. :-/ ( HUGE vent)

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
2197 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

UGH! People just need to mind their own damn business. I’d tell that coworker of yours “Honey, don’t get your hopes up…” and walk away. Snarky, I know. But sheesh! 

Post # 4
4514 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I understand being super excited and telling someone about you TTC, but that co-workers of yours, who spread the news needs to be b!tch slapped for realzzzz!!!!! and the other one? well, she can get some cat slap action too!!! (((HUGS))) hopefully these all stops soon!

Post # 5
2699 posts
Sugar bee

Wow that sucks. I’m definitely keeping it to myself when DH and I start. 

Post # 7
1395 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Wow, bummer. 🙁 Sorry! 

Post # 8
1719 posts
Bumble bee

A lot of that is just terrible manners, and the coworker never should have said anything. I’m sorry she blabbed to everyone. 

However, and I am aware many people will not agree, some people — the ones you never talk to, but say “Sooo anything to tell me?”, with a creepy smile and wide eyes — may be genuinely excited. That’s just what the prospect of new little ones does to a lot of people. You don’t have to tell them, of course but try to keep in mind that these people may just be excited for you.

A firm, but not too aggressive, statement that makes it clear that everything regarding your reproductive endeavor is under wraps may be in order. You could even reply to those questions with “Mum’s the word” or “I don’t want to jinx it”. 

Post # 10
926 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I think you should look your coworkers in the eyes, wide eyed and with a creepy smile and ask them if they’re having unprotected sex too. 

Post # 11
10384 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Why didn’t you ask her not to say anything? Or once she did spread it around, ask her not to do it anymore?

Post # 12
1397 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I have no idea why people don’t mind their own business.  I would never ask someone those questions.  That is just not my place.

Post # 13
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@the_newlymintedmrs-s17:  OMG, yikes!!!  I’d probably tell all the nosey people I had a MC or found out I was infertile so they’d leave me alone!!!

Post # 14
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would have asked that lady why she chose to open her mouth about something like that. And you know what? Even though the dmaage is already done, I STILL would ask her. And then I would inform her that if she expects you to share any more exciting information with her, she is dead wrong.

Post # 16
666 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@megz06:  +1! 

@the_newlymintedmrs-s17:  This situation totally sucks, but as hard as it might be, I would also say something to the girl who blabbed.  she needs to know that she f*cked up… And you might even try to enlist her help nipping it in the bud with the coworkers she squealed to, also. She could do her part to help out by telling them something like, “I wasn’t supposed to tell this to anyone and the comments are really bothering her,” or even a blatant lie like, “I misunderstood what she told me and the ttc rumor going around is untrue so please don’t spread it!”

I’m so sorry this happened!  :/

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