Post # 1
My SO and I have chosen to not have children.
That said, he does have an adult daughter from his first marriage.
The daughter and I get along really well and we see her about once a month or so. Neither her dad nor I are fond of her fiance, but, it’s her choice.
She and her fiance now have a 1 month old daughter, who is doing great!
I don’t consider myself a mother (or even step mother) but everyone including my SO has been referring to me as a grandmother of this new baby. I’m actually okay with that, for the most part. (I sometimes feel a bit weird because I am not even 30 yet..)
My parents like to tease me but I just remind them that they are now GREAT grandparents, and they hush up pretty quickly!! 🙂
Anyone else in a similar situation? Dating a man who is now a (young!) grandfather, while you don’t have kids yourself?
It’s fun watching him with the baby, and I do appreciate the baby snuggling myself, but after a few hours with them we do appreciate going home, WITHOUT one of our own..
Note: I ABSOLUTELY respect you all as parents! There is no snark, here. I just know that I could not do what you do, 24/7. I am happy with my limited baby-time. 🙂
Post # 3
FSIL became a grandmother first.
Her husband is a good bit older than she is and had a child from a previous relationship. His daughter had a baby and then FSIL eventually had a child a year or so later.
Post # 4
I’m not in your situation but it’s kind of funny and strange to think of someone not even 30 as a grandmother! It sounds like your’re having fun with it though :). Maybe you’ll decide to have children further down the line and your grandchildren can take care of your children 😉
Post # 5
@LadyX: It was odd at first!
Also, we are very content with our choice to not have children. We will spoil the heck out of the grandbaby 😀
Your comment reminded me though, my aunt is 5 months older than I am! She and I grew up more like sisters. 🙂 (My biological mother had me when she was 15, and my grandmother was mid 30’s and pregnant with my aunt at the same time.)
Post # 6
Wow that must of have been strange for your mom and grandmother. So great you got to grow up with your aunt though, not many people get to do that!
I’m sure you will spoil your grandchildren! If you’re anything like my parents that are grandparents as well you will spoil them rotten! I’m baffled at what my parents let my nieces and nephews to get away with!
Post # 7
LOL. My SO is a great uncle to 2 little girls…who are a year old and year younger than our daughter!
I know a woman who is a grandma by her daughter and she’s my age (31). Crazy and sad.
Post # 8
My fiance is 21 years older than me and has 2 daughters from a previous marriage. We will not be having children together and I’ve politely asked his 20-year-old daughter to wait about 5-7 years before making me a grandma. She laughed along with me and promised to wait several years before having kids. Whew!
Post # 9
I am 29 and I have 4 granddaughters. My husband is 23 years older than me and he has 3 adult children. The 2 younger children call me mom and all of the kids refer to me as Grandma. I have more grand kids than my own mother. DH and I have 2 boys and they are both uncles at the age of 5 and 7. It gets a little confusing when they are all in the same room but it is a blast!
Post # 10
I am not a grandma (thank God)! I am only 22. But, I do think it is funny that my dad and his girlfriend just had a baby last weekend. I am sure they will end up with more. It is very likely I will be pregnant at the same time as my own “step-mother”… or have a child older than any future sibs, if I ever end up having a baby of my own.
Post # 11
A friend of mine was a grandmother at 30… Had her first at 14 and her baby had HER baby at 15! It was crazy! I say embrace it, it’s kind of awesome!! You get to enjoy the baby and the perks of being “grandma” without having any of your own.
Post # 12
My grandmother became a grandma and a great grandma in the same week. My 47 year old uncle and my 20 year old cousin both had kids within the week and it was a little odd. My uncle and his wife are having another child. It will be great to have older kids around when we decide to have kids in a few years.
Post # 13
My SO has been an uncle since he was 2 yrs old, his niece and nephew are like brother and sister to him. His actual sister is 17 yrs older then him. His actual brother is 4 yrs older then him and has a 7 yr old daughter, we have no plans for kids for another 4 or 5 years so she will probably we old enough to babysit our kids by then lol.