- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
My FI has a friend who no one can stand. I mean no one. He is the epitome of rude and disgusting and treats people horribly. For some reason, my FI feels this very, very stronge loyalty to this man. I try to understand but I can’t wrap my brain around why he feels so strongly about their friendship and remaining friends, when other mutual friends have written him off. He lives two states away so we rarely see him, so I can deal with it. I would like to say that I have travelled with my FI to see this man and his wife, and I can tolerate him, and I really like his wife and can’t understand why she is married to this man.
When my FI deployed two years ago, I was very lonely and maybe wrote too many posts on my FI’s facebook. One day, I posted something like “can’t wait til you come home” and he posted back “wow FI, are you still dating this whore?”
SAY WHAT?!?! He consistently will write rude things about me on FB (this is par for the course with him) and my FI is like, oh he just does it to get a rise out of you, or makes up some other stupid reason.
After we got engaged, I agreed to allow FI invite this man to the wedding. Generous, I know. FI let me know that if he stepped out of line, there will be about 15 people eager to get him back in line (umm, I am having a beautiful wedding & am sacrificing a lot financially to make that happen- I don’t need some white trash fight to ruin my day) I recently snooped in FI’s phone to see if this man sent his congratulations when we got engaged.
He instead said “why are you doing this, Tracy sucks. I’m not going to blow smoke up your ass and say congrats because you are making the biggest mistake of your life”!!!!! WTF!!!!!!!!
I have to say, I am normal, I have a great job, moved 400 miles to be with my FI, who is military, I am always alone, take care of our house & dog, etc- there is nothing sucky about me and everyone is thrilled we are getting married.
How do I approach this without coming across as a snoop (I normally don’t snoop, but something was nagging me about him coming to the wedding)? How can I get it threw my FI’s thick head that this friendship has to end?
I’m beginning to think they murdered someone in college and that’s why he must remain friends with this guy to keep him quiet- just kidding- kind of.