(Closed) I snooped

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Just because he hasn’t searched anything doesn’t mean he hasn’t looked. He can delete part of his history remember πŸ™‚ It’s easy to delete parts of your history, especially on a Mac!!

Post # 5
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1980 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Maybe he doesn’t have an online history because he has been going to the store in person?! πŸ˜€

Post # 6
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174 posts
Blushing bee

@impatientlywaiting20:  Some men are sneakier than others. My SO is an excellent secret keeper and always manages to surprise me despite the fact that I am a notorious surprise ruiner. I have never searched his history but I’m certain I would not find anything ring related (and may find few thing I didn’t want to see..). I would not worry too much. The room for your kids thing sounds extremely promising. 

Post # 7
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868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

YAY looking at rings together that is so great!

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Maybe he is doing his searching at work or on his phone.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

It doesn’t necessarily mean anything that you aren’t seeing anything. I snooped too. I didn’t look hardcore into the history, but I started typing into the Google bar, and waited to see what previously-googled things would pop up. I entered in every single letter, and didn’t find a thing about ring, proposal, how to ask… nothing.

I half thought he’d changed his mind and retured the ring to the store, since I also didn’t find that anywhere. (Granted, I didn’t tear the room apart…but still.)

But apparently he is planning, and has been for awhile. I’m not necessarily anti-snooping, but I do think in this case it helped elevate my neuroticism unnecessarily. Plus, if he knows you, he probably knows to not leave evidence lying around.

I think you should just keep open the lines of communication. Use things like him bringing up the kids moving in as a spingboard for discussion (Also, I’m not sure I’d let the kids move in before you’re engaged. Not for their safety or anything like that, but because pretty much at that point you’re going to be living as married, and it will read as an acceptance of the status quo. If you try to bring it up after you move in, you’re likely to get met with “What’s the difference? We’re already a family anyway” or “Nothing will change, will it” or some other variation on what’s-the-point.)

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

Maybe he’s using an incognito window whenever he searches?  it doesn’t store any cookies and lets you search in secret.  I know that’s what my SO would use if he was looking to buy online… in fact, I saw him using one the other day….

Post # 14
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Worker bee

Glad I’m not the only snoop…I too went looking online for signs in the Favorites/Search History.  But the only thing I found was either searches for sporting goods, hunting supplies or stock information.  Sigh. Guess I can’t be disappointed when I was snooping in the first place.  Perhaps we can all hope our SOs are using their computers at work or going in person…I’d bet our SOs are sneakier than we think πŸ™‚

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Some of them are really good at hiding stuff. My SO is apparently planning but when I checked the computer I found nothing to suggest it!

Driving myself crazy with it. I just have to tell myself that it’s coming within the next 4 months and ride it out. Geez, easier said then done!

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