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    Ms Sassy    January 4, 2012   Outside of Boston, MA

    So it a nutshell...I need you guys to put me in my place..STAT!  I am just having a really selfish moment right now.  I get these moments every once in awhile and can usually reel myself in but right now...I can't.

    So my issue is that I am feeling a bit neglected by people.  I have been out of work for 1.5 years and have been actively looking for a job. Finally last Thursday I get an interview for an amazing company doing an amazing job.  I got called back for a second interview (which was today) and it went awesome and am really hoping to land this job.

    After I get out of my interview I make a few phone calls to share my delight.  Each person interrupted me to talk about themselves.  My best friend was more concern in talking to me about a bank that went out of business 3 years ago; whenever I tried to stare the conversation back to me she would interrupt me to bring it back to her.  Because really I don’t give a rats ass about the effin bank!

    Then my BF comes home and I’m out walking the dog, he comes over to me and starts telling me about his day & his drive etc etc. Finally there’s a break from him talking and I start to bring up my interview and he walks away to go back into the house. Doesn’t say he’s leaving, just does while I’m in the middle of a sentence.  So as I bring the dog back in my neighbor pops out to chat and say that she noticed that I was gone this morning and I tell her that I had my 2nd interview. Instead of asking how it went she starts in on a rant about her daughter who is staying with her. So when she was done..you guess it she had to go because she was going to start her soup.  So I finally make it back into the house. I go upstairs to the office and my boyfriend is on the computer. I walk in and said “So let me tell you….” That was about as far as I got because he launched into this spiel about this “totally awesome website” and ‘look at all the cool stuff”. 

     And to top it off after I started sliding into my pity party..I was called "un-cool" by a friend’s 15 year old daughter that I have been sister-like since she was a toddler! I supposedly embarrassed her on Facebook in front of her friends because I commented on a post about doing homework at 10pm on a Sunday night after a week off for vacation.

     So please 'Bee's tell me that I'm just being over sensitive about everything. And that my super awesome day isn’t really that big of a deal to others.

     
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    janie-janie    February 16, 2010  

    totally uncool. a second job interview is a really big deal! I'm especially surprised your FI didn't show any interest. I'm sorry :(

    anyway, so... back to me....

    kidding. how did it go? tell us if you got the job!

     
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    j_nicolle    October 10, 2009   Midwest

    Ouch. Well, congrats on your interview! I hope you get the job!

    The people in your life didn't sound very supportive today! I know sometime when I'm in a bad mood every little thing someone says sounds bad to me, even if they didn't mean it that way. I'm sure they are proud of you they probably are just too wrapped in their own stuff to really listen! I hope your BF comes around and has some time to listen to you!

     
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    LaurenK0105    October 15, 2006  

    First, congratulations!! Fingers are crossed that this will go well for you!!

    Now for what you asked for:  It could be that they don't want to get your hopes up after such a long job search.  I know I get really superstitious about getting my hopes up and am often not so excited to others to not encourage them to get their hopes up as well.  It could also be that they're tired of hearing about your until-this-moment unsuccessful job search and didn't fully open up their ears to hear that this is really good news!!  It sucks that they can't be as excited as you are right now, but I'm sure this will change if you do land the job.

     
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    SamanthaSadlier    March 25, 2011  

    Awwww, that sucks! I don't think you are being overly sensitive at all! I mean, a second interview that you rocked after being out of work for a year and a half, that is HUGE!! Congrats!! I really hope you get it! I am sorry that people aren't realizing how big of a deal it is for you, because it is. In the case with your BF, I would sit him down and flat out tell him that you would like to talk to him about YOUR day. Tell him how important it is to you. Sometimes I have to straight up put myself first like that in cases with DH. People just tend to get caught up in their own lives sometimes. This happens to me a lot too. Good luck, and best wishes in your *maybe* new job!

     
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    MrsSl82be    October 24, 2009  

    COngrats on the interview, hope you get it!!

    Sometimes people are just too wrapped up in their own things to hear the new news. But if I were you, and my BF did that to me, I would lock eyes, and tell him he needs to pay attention to what you have to say! Sometimes I have to do that with the hubs, but then I know I have his full attention. You gotta snap them out of it sometimes

     
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    kaylee26    January 1, 2014  

    Any adult is uncool to a 15 year old. That's just life. Good luck with the interview!

     

     

     
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    creativeplannertobee      

    Good for the 2nd interview!!! Way to go!!!  I totally understand.  I hope you get it-and you don't have to wait long for the answer. . .

    cause I'm still waiting to schedule #2

    and just ignore the 15 year old.  :)

     
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    Ms Sassy    January 4, 2012   Outside of Boston, MA

    YAY I got the job! So super excited.  After being out of a job for so long its going to be hard to get back in the swing of things.  I'm going to miss my naps Wink

    Thank for letting me vent. I think i was suffering from low blood sugar or something because once I ate dinner last night I felt better.  So our dinner conversation was just me talking.  Any time he tried to talk I would just keep talking. He figured it out though. He said to me before we went to bed "I'm sorry for earlier.  For what I did...or didn't do."

     
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    sleepingbeauty88       Northern Virginia

    Congratulations on your second job interview! I'll cross my fingers for you!

    I get where you are coming from and I don't think you are being hyper sensitive. It sounds like a crappy day and all you wanted to do was share a bit of good news. I recently had this happen to me as well, and I completely agree that it is a huge buzz kill - especially since I was having a meltdown of my own, and instead of the person I called helping me through it, they interrupted me and had a meltdown themselves.

    edit: Just saw you got the job! Congratulations again! You go girl! Laughing

     

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