(Closed) I sound like an overdramatic crazy person…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1315 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

For your health you need to back away honey. You are talking about functioning adults, however hurt/confused/etc they might be. They have to make their own choices, including mistakes. You’re harming yourself.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

no you dont. I went through a very similar situation with my  older sister. even if she doent want to talk to anyone, or accept help from anyone,you have told her that you were there to help.  you have reached out to her and unfortantaly that is about all that you can do. Its so hard to sit back and watch someone you care about hit rock bottom. It took almost 2 years for my sister to reach out to me(she called me to bail her out of jail on my 17th birthday).

for me it was better not knowing, she didnt want to talk to me anyways, so i hate to say it and some might think i am an aweful person but in my situation no news was good news.

if trying to reach out to her is pushing her further away that is not good either.  i am so sorry you are feeling this way

Post # 5
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328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@SweetRose2011: I know how you feel, my sister was in a situation, but now she has come around. She still finds more comfort in friends than her own family which constantly feels like a slap in the face. It makes you feel like you don’t have any idea what you’re talking about and that you’re useless to them. My sister won’t tell us anything because we hear the full story, where as her friends don’t know the entire story of course they’re going to side with her about this asshat who attacked me, smacked his oldest daughter so hard he left a big bruise on her and yet got away with it cause Florida’s got the worst social workers ever, and has neglected his youngest daughter at times.

All you can do is let them know that you are there for them no matter how bad things may get, and someday when they feel the need to come for you for love and support they are always welcomed. When you push hard for a response, you may be only pushing them further away. Just breath, and say a prayer for her and be there when the day comes, because it will someday. She will see, and if not…it really is her loss because it sounds like she has a great person waiting for her, to comfort and offer words of wisdom.

Post # 7
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328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@SweetRose2011: Does her roommate seem to show a lot of concern? If so, she could be the voice of reason, and I’d imagine she would contact you if anything were to happen.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

@SweetRose2011 You’re not over dramatic at all! Believe me… my mom started a home for women/young women and it’s so apparent that so many people are so broken. It’s terrible! We’ve had many girls come only to decided to leave b/c they didn’t want to change or have anything better b/c it took work. It’s so hard to see people hurt themselves ESPECIALLY after learning how Jesus frees and how He restores the broken heart! I’ve seen it with them, I’ve seen it with family (especially DH family), and I see it with my son’s father…. I had to just tell myself “They need Jesus”.. over and over and over… I began praying for them more… straight scripture, claiming what is not as though it is! and again… “They need Jesus” <— really helped as trival as it seems.. it went from my head to my heart one day and I stopped getting my heart hurt from their hurt and disfunction and felt a peace in my heart that our Lord has the power to heal them and that as I believe it He will invade their hearts and have that healing manifested.

We’re made to have that desire for the broken… compassion for those seeking out all the wrong things.. and just pray pray pray that God Himself meets them right where they are, that they have a Paul kinda face to face meeting with the Lover of their soul, and that they are healed to walk out the plan that our Awesome God has for them! <3

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