(Closed) I suddenly feel like the “anti-bride” …. what’s wrong with me? …

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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908 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

It’s TOTALLY normal to feel the way you do.

I felt that way about two months before the wedding, I was burnt out from wedding planning!  Try to take a weekend and do NOTHING wedding related.

For me, I got excited again about a month before but I was still really stressed, then about 2 weeks before I reached my favourite point, the “I don’t care” stage.

Just know that what you are feeling is normal and you will get through it!

Post # 4
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7175 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Nothing is wrong with you – you have lived and breathed all things wedding and it’s a normal reaction.  If you can, take a break from wedding ‘thinking’ and do things that are NOT wedding related.  

Hang in there and do whatever you can to stay away from the crazy.

Post # 5
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1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Ok I had that crash and burn feeling a couple weeks ago, and suddenly I accomplished a big project, and somehow snapped out of it. It sounds like you need a break, that’s what I did. It will get better.

Post # 6
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2856 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I felt that way two a few months before the wedding. It is totally normal. What helped me was to step away from all things wedding for a few days. I was able to cool off and relax my brain from all the stress of planning. Once I had the chance to relax I had a more relaxed and carefree attitude about it all. Not the “I don’t care” attitude but more of the “nothing is perfect, and I am OK with that” kind of attitude.

You will get there too. Just be sure to take those breaks and breathe!

Good luck!

Post # 7
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428 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009 - Church Ceremony/Reception at The Waterford House

I feel the SAME WAY!  I have so many things left to do and the invitations just took all the energy out of me. Haha, I wish I could quit…. just 6 weeks left, date twin!!!!

Post # 8
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Been there done that. You put your game face on, chug a coke, and check some things off your list and start the countdown!

Take a few days off. You’ll feel a hundred times better. It took me a plane ticket to GA to get away from it all

Post # 9
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67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I know exactly how you feel!  The entire month of May I did NOTHING.  I had just finished school, started on clinical rotations, and moved all in one week.  I was spent.  I did not care about the wedding.  I couldn’t even look at anything wedding related.  It is okay not to care about the wedding planning process…for a little while!  It took me a whole month to recover, so take the time that you need and relax!

Post # 10
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853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

it’s normal to want to get back to normal life at some point. take a break. figure out what you can outsource to your FI, bridal party, etc.

i actually had someone ask me when i was going to start getting excited about my wedding the other day! so no, you do NOT have to be all gushy excited all the time.

Post # 11
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2022 posts
Buzzing bee

I go in spurts.  Some days I am sooo excited.   Others I just want the planning to be over and feel really over it.  Super swamped at work, trying to unpack our new place, and don’t feel like I have the time to dedicate to wedding stuff. 

Anyways, you’re normal for feeling this way : )

Post # 12
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1149 posts
Bumble bee

Agree with everyone else!  Sometimes you have to “step away from the wedding” to regain your enthusiasm.  Don’t worry about how you are “supposed” to be — feel how you feel, embrace it, take care of you however you need to.  Then when you come back to the wedding you’ll do so with renewed energy and enthusiasm!   Smile

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Take a break! Even if it’s just a few hours to think about NOTHING. I’m at the point you’re at…October 3rd can’t come soon enough….I’ve reached my “I don’t care, can’t this be done with already?!” stage. 

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