Post # 1
I am pushing 30, and I swear to god I am about to block myself from facebook for the next month after 14 friends have gotten married/engaged in the last 2 months, ugh!!!
Everytime I see an “event” I cry because its still. not. me.
We just went on a 2 week road trip to see his family and mine, and nearly all friends/family kept asking when we are getting married.
Mind you- we’ve been dating for a year and a half, and living together for 8 months. We both have known we were the “one” for each other since 2 weeks into dating. Heck, we’ve both planned half the wedding.
I am doing everything in the world to distract myself- cleaning the house, working out, etc. Spoiling the dickens out of the man, baking from scratch.
Any tips on how to make the waiting not hurt?
Post # 3
@chic_and_fabulous: my favourite button on facebook is “hide story” i’ve used it many times!!
Continue to do what you’re doing and also focus on the positive–you’re in a wonderful relationship with a man who loves you and you get to spend lots of quality time together, which is something that not everyone has!
Post # 4
@mrs-to-be-2014: Mrs to be, THANK YOU SO MUCH! you probably just saved my sanity. I will attack my facebook feed now, lol.
Post # 5
@chic_and_fabulous: LOL! No problem! Happy to help!! It use to be called Hide story..but now when you click on something, the drop box option is “I dont want to see this”–truer words have never been spoken!
Post # 6
I have been a long time lurker and I just joined to respond to your post!
You are me! I’m waiting (mostly, kinda) patiently enough considering how long we’ve been together (8 years) and most of the time I don’t let it get to me cos we have a great relationship and life and we both know where we’re at with this whole thing.
But dang every time I see “so and so is engaged to so and so” on fb it stings just a little (ok a lot). I’m so happy for people but it’s just a “when will it be my turn to celebrate our relationship” kinda sting. I’m ready to be something other than a gf.
Keep spoiling the hell outta that man and remember the important thing is that you’be found someone to love who loves you back. Cheesy and all as it is, it really is the bottom line.
Post # 7
Get off Facebook, stop comparing yourself to others.
You have to remember, people on social media only let you see what they want you to see and thus have control over your perception of them and that their life is perfect when it really isn’t. While this article isn’t from a scientific journal, it does point out some very real points that us as women today face everyday. http://magazine.foxnews.com/love/got-wedding-envy-when-talk-your-partner-about-marriage
Just keep focusing on you and the milestones you’ve reached, not other people’s achievements as they have no impact on your life! Do what is right for you!
Post # 9
@ceemarie7: thanks for sharing a very true reminder Cee Marie!
I’m happy beyond belief with our relationship, and just looking at other threads on wedding bee, I should be happy that my SO wants to get married to me, treats me well with lots of love and affection. I have to start saving for the wedding anyways, and I suppose I should just enjoy the journey 🙂
Post # 10
@Brownbear23: wow, I’m honored! Welcome to the bee, it’s addicting 🙂 You should join the waiting list, it’s kind of fun to see your number “move up” and see that other women have been waiting for much longer, and to be grateful.
I’ll stay strong, and you too!
Post # 11
I find any which way on facebook to get the engagement stuff off of my wall the moment they pop up! The previous poster made an awesome suggestion.
Advice: vent on weddingbee to get it off of your chest and then return to your normal life.
Post # 12
What does your guy say when you talk about Marriage / your lives / LIFE PLAN.
What timeframe is he on track for ?
Post # 13
@chic_and_fabulous: It is so hard to be waiting and not hurt once you realize you are ready. I feel hurt a lot because I am eager to progress my life together with the one I love. I know how you feel. Don’t worry you are not alone.
I think the best way to not be hurt is to try and be happy for everyone else and try to respect your SO’s timeline as well.
I know it is hard. It is hard because it feels like they are only thinking about their needs and not putting our needs into consideration. That hurts a lot. But, if you only focus on being hurt, your relationship will suffer.
Post # 14
Yes. That’s what it feels like now. My mother just said to me “one day it will be your turn”. She was right. Waiting just sucks. But at the end it’s worth the wait. Think of the single girls wishing they could be in a relationship! Focus on what you have.