(Closed) I swear I'm not copying you!

posted 6 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Go through with it, or not?
    Go through with it-it's funny! : (10 votes)
    20 %
    Don't go through with it-you're copying! : (25 votes)
    51 %
    Change it up and use the groomsmen : (11 votes)
    22 %
    Other (please comment) : (3 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    3121 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @Frazis:  I’m not a huge fan of any of those….

    I’d let it go and find something uniquely you.

    Post # 4
    9142 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    It will only look like copying to the people who attending their wedding.  If you think it can still be fresh for your other guests and you still want to do it make sure your gags are different from theirs.  I would try to let the other bride and groom know ahead of time that you had an idea like theirs and really liked how they did it so you hope it comes off as flattery or a compliment and not copying.

    Post # 5
    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    On the one hand, it may look like copying. On the other hand, does it really matter? You guys obviously want to do this and the people who will remember this moment at the wedding are most likely the most important people in your lives, like parents, siblings, best friends.. The other guests who perhaps saw the same thing at the other wedding are likely to not remember it in the long run, or probably care that they have seen something similar before. I think your idea of pulling out a groomsmen is unique and quite funny actually and I would be laughing if I saw that done at a wedding. I wouldn’t throw out an idea just because someone before you did it. I know it’s not really the same, but there are only so many ‘elements’ to a wedding that you can use before it’s just ‘copying,’ but putting your own spin on it. I don’t view this as a big deal and hopefully your guests appreciate it, laugh and have fun with it. 

    If you are really feeling torn then you can approach the other couple, as a PP suggested, but other than letting them know (not asking them ‘permission’), I think you should just go ahead and do it. 

    Post # 6
    11343 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I think what you should do is have one of the items your DH retrieves from under your gown be a sign, rolled up like a scroll, that your Darling Husband can then dramatically unroll and read/show to the “audience” that says, “NOTE: By the way, we’ve been planning this routine for MONTHS. We did NOT steal this idea from John and Jane Smith!” I’m sure they’ll howl! 🙂

    Post # 7
    5075 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    That’s not unusual.  I’ve seen it at quite a few weddings.  No one would think you’re copying.

    Post # 8
    4150 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    If I were in this situation, I’d probably talk to the couple who’s wedding you just attended who used this idea and say “hey, I absolutely loved that you guys did this because my Fiance and I had actually thought about doing it and we loved how it turned out at your wedding.  We’ve even purchased some things for it already!  You don’t mind if we do it also right?”

    I would rather say that to them, even though you already had the idea before you saw it at their wedding, than them thinking you copied.  It depends on the couple, they might be like “ya of course you can, we loved it!” but I highly doubt they would say “umm no sorry.”  At least when you guys do it, they’re not going to be sitting there whispering to the other guests “they copied us!” out of shock. 

    I hope that makes sense, I’m just looking at it from the first couple’s perspective.

    Post # 9
    9552 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Brielle:  hahahahahaha!!! That’s great!

    I think people put way to much stock into “copying” wedding ideas. There are only so many wedding ideas out there. Someone has done anything you can think of. It’s all copying. So I wouldn’t worry about it. Do what you think it fun and don’t worry about how it may or may not resemble other people’s weddings. And the majority of your guests will not have been to the previous wedding so I don’t think it matters. But I do really like the idea of pulling out something that is obviously from one of the groomsmen!

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