- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
UGH! I have been with my FH since 2005 and knew that his family was strangely nutty. Backwards information, fights with relatives, country, no education, yada yada yada. His mom gives the appearance of being such a sweet person but this is also the same woman who threatened to shoot her other daughter in law in the face. His dad acts like he knows everything and tells ppl hes a pharmacist when he’s actually only a pharmacy “tech”…..I’ve learned over the years to supress their “ways” and worry about my fh but recently it has been getting to me.
I let his mother make some of the floral arrangements to be on good terms. She’s tried to screw me over emotionally with that. I explained to them the costs of the venue and other things since my parents were helping to contribute. And don’t get me wrong I didn’t volunteer them for it. They volunteered themselves and then told my parents lies about sending us money to help out. My FH and I only make but so much so every little bit counts and its not like we are having a $5000 plus wedding at all. This is as budget as it gets. Well now they out of nowhere tell me theres going to be a bridal shower “dinner” for me at 10 in the morning and I would have to drive 4 1/2 hours to go to it since they won’t pick me up and I work the previous day until 11 at night……On top of that his dad calls my dad and once again lies about sending money over to help out. I can’t take the madness anymore.
I hate disorganization. I hate noncommunication. I hate the lies. If you don’t have the money STFU! and stop volunteering for shiz. Tell me “I don’t have it sorry” and the world would be a better EffiN place!…. I thought this process was going to be at least halfway enjoyable but all I have to experience is stress and more stress. I do not look forward to being part of his family and now my thoughts are more about how we’re going to move far far away from them. It shouldn’t be this way but it is. I tried to have empathy for them but common sense things like the sky is blue or 1 +1 is 2 are sideways to them. The only person who understands the madness is the daughter in law. She only knows because the money they “promise” everyone ends up being sent to them all the time. Even recently his parents went OFF on them and it was VERY serious but yet a week or so later they send them money. WTF?!!!! I have done nothing to them but tried to understand their ways. I give up. THey irk me. They are the scum between my toes…..(I love Lil Rascals lol) I feel like I am going crazy……End vent