- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
So recently I encountered 2 kids- that are just straight up effin’ brats. I’ve never met these kids, they are my second cousins. The have 1 girl, 1 boy.
Situation 1: girl (approx. 8 years old) she wants to give “hugs n kisses” to my husband. He resists, feeling overwhelmed and a bit akward. Then these “kisses” turn into her trying to lick him. Yes, that’s right, tounge out- tryng to LICK him. Then she gets more agressive trying to jump onto him (he is sitting on the couch) and trying to snatch his hat off his head. Again, he’s still resisting. She persists. After about 10 mintues and a crayon box breaking mom comes in and sort of just cleans up and wisks the kids away (weather or not she saw/ knew what her kid was doing, I can’t say).
Situation 2: I am sitting on the floor with a little car toy, just toying with it while watching TV. Girl is coloring in a book entertaining herself. All of a sudden out of absolutley no where, she reaches over and yanks the toy out of my hands. I look at her firmly, and say “Well, that was rude!” she responds with a snotty look and tone in her voice “wellll, that was rude!” I nearly FLIP. I was so close to slapping her, but obviously didn’t. (at this point, scolding her on manners is pointless- becasue this is not the first time I’ve heard her copycat an adult). So I remain silent staring at her. She certainly got the point, but didn’t give in. After a moment or 2 her attention is turned elsewhere, and I reach over and yank the toy out of her hands- she attempted to hold onto the toy, white knuckles and all. I persist and pry it right out of her hand and place the toy in my lap. Once again I stare her down and say “That’s what you did to me” … She repeats after me… again.
Situation 3: Husband was sitting on the arm of a chair, with a glass of wine girl comes close and reaches to grab the hat off his head (again) and again he resists, and in the mean time loses his balance, falls off the arm and spills the wine on the leather couch, and all over his pants (couch was OK- husband was PISSED!). Her uncle (young adult) saw this and wiped up the mess. The girl then proceeded to “help” clean up by LICKING THE WINE OFF THE COUCH- WTF. She was not punished by anyone. Husband almost threw the cup of wine on her “by accident” but decided against. I would have gave him my blessing in all honesty.
Situation 4: both the girl and the boy (approx 3-4 years old) go around smacking people on the butt, or when you’re walking and the kid is following, they will simply follow you, with their hands on your ass- as if that were a subsitute for holding the childs while you walked with them. Like where did they learn it was OK to continue doing this- and to “strangers” such as me!
So parents- given that this is obviously behaviour learned, that has gone unpunished for many years, what are your thoughts, if I straight up scolded your kid on using manners saying things like:
“Excuse me, ‘girl’ do NOT take someones hat off their head unless you have asked if you can take it”
“Girl, you are not allowed to touch people’s bums- that is not nice”
“Girl, if you want something you must ask me NICELY to get it for you, and you have to say “Please” and Thank you”
“Get over here, and apologize for spilling wine on the couch- then go get a cloth and help clean it up”
FYI- even grandma and auntie (who has 2 well- behaved kids)- said it was “no use” when the kids misbehaving/ punsihment is discussed- therefore its easy to conclude approaching mom or dad yeilds no results.
So… thoughts? What would YOU do, if the kids did this to/ around you? (or if you were mom and saw someone “teaching your kid a lesson” as I describe above.