Post # 1
Bear with me on this…I have a thousand thoughts running through my head and I’m sure this post will be all over the place.
First things first, my boyfriend and I have been together for about 3.5 years, and living together for over 2 of them. We first talked about marriage before we even hit the 1 year mark, and I know for sure he has already asked my dad for permission (about 4 months ago). He’s also gone ring shopping and we’ve talked about rings/designs I like, ring size, etc. So, while I knew this was coming at some point, I didn’t think I would know exactly when.
This weekend we are going away to our favorite place (and also the place where we have talked about wanting to have our wedding), and I *think* he might be planning to propose. While I am OVER THE MOON about this, I am also a little sad. I’ve always envisioned our engagement/proposal and I am now worried that it won’t be as exciting since I am anticipating it. (But I’m not 100% sure it’s even going to happen…?)
Has anyone else known (or thought they knew) about their proposal before it happened? Did it ruin the moment? Any suggestions?
Another thing, if it is going to happen this weekend, what should I wear? And what color should I paint my nails?
Post # 2
cmtj331: Aw, I wouldn’t worry about it. If and when it happens, I’m sure you’ll be so thrilled and happy and it will be everything you wanted. The whole point is that he is asking you to be with him forever and you’ll be marrying the love of your life. I think that’s pretty exciting!
My FI and I did things a little backwards. I am the first in my family to completely break all sorts of traditions. We got engaged after high school and it blew up in our faces. My parents refused to acknowledge our engagement and forbade us from telling my family, so we kept our mouths shut. I wore his class ring until he bought me a placeholder ring a year later. We told my family it was a promise ring.
3.5 years into our relationship, we picked out a ring together and he’s going to my parents to ask for their blessing because he says he, “wants to do things right this time.” (bless him!) To answer one of your questions, I didn’t really ruin the proposal per se, but I do know when he’s planning on proposing again to make if official. Oct. 4th to be exact. I know what the ring looks like, as I helped design it and I tried in on already. I’m still excited because he has something very special planned and I have no idea where we are going or what we are doing, so I’ll still be surprised in lieu of everything else! Enjoy the moment when it happens 🙂
Wear something you’ll feel comfortable in but also makes you feel beautiful. You two may decide to take photos of yourselves, so think about that, too.
As for nails, I always vote for something classic like a french manicure, or a simple color that isn’t too crazy. My ring has a canary center stone, so I plan on painting my nails a lavendar color so the yellow stands out more because they are contrast colors. Or, as a nod towards your future FI, paint your nails his favorite color. 🙂
Good luck to you, and I’m sure you’ll be thrilled with the proposal and the ring whenever it happens. Early Congratulations 🙂
Post # 3
- Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016
Ahh, that’s so exciting!! I wouldn’t be sad, no matter how he proposes you’re still going to be with the love of your life and adore every second of it. I have somewhat of an idea of when I might be proposes to, but like you I don’t know the details, how it’s going to happen, where exactly, when, none of those things! It’s not ruining it for me at all, and instead I’m trying to focus on other things, like what I’ll wear or maybe even surprising him with something in return. I think you should paint your nails your absolute favorite color and then choose a pretty outfit based around them 🙂
Post # 4
Second, I too know my proposal is just days away (and even know how FI is doing it), so I feel the same way. Here’s hoping after it happens, we’ll feel silly for having these worries!
Post # 5
I wouldn’t worry – you’ll just be so excited to be engaged, like the OPs said.
TheGridMonster: sounds like you and I will both have exciting stories for everyone next week! 😀 I know too, and it’s TOMORROW! Ugh – I’ve been sleeping terribly all week because of the excitement.
In our case, I had booked us a nice dinner out weeks ago, just ‘cuz. Also discreetly creating a good opportunity…. SO likes to peg himself as unromantic, but I think of it more as not “traditionally” romantic. But we are pretty open books with each other, so we picked, purchased and picked up my ring together, and it was just a matter of when we decided to “make it official”. I was a little worried at first it would lose it’s excitement knowing it all ahead of time, but I actually really LOVE the fact that it’s been such a mutual decision. Gives me so much confidence in our relationship.
Post # 6
Cdngrlred: WOOOOO!! That’s so cute. Hope you have an amazing dinner! The day will go by sooo slowly for you haha.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
Good luck!! 😀 Tell us how it goes.
Post # 8
So exciting!! I knew he was going to propose on our vacation to Hawaii. In the middle of the week we went on a sunrise hike and I thought I saw the outline of a ring box in his pocket so I was FREAKING OUT…turns out I worked myself up for nothing. We were on the last full day of our trip when we hiked Diamond Head. My parents (both are deceased) went on their honeymoon there and have a ton of pics of Diamond Head. I thought he was running out of time since we were leaving the next day and figured he would do it there. Well we got to the top and there were so many people. He’s really shy so I didn’t think he would do with so many people around and gave up on the idea. Finally he said he wanted to take a pic in a semi private area and gave a guy my phone, and was kinda whispering to him. I knew it was about to happen!! I remember everything he said but I was so in the moment and still freaking out! I wish I could re-live it everyday! I think even if you have a feeling it might happen, you will still freak out and be over the moon!
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2014 - TTC #2
cmtj331: I had a little suspicion, like you, a proposal might be coming. But when the moment came, the things he said.. it was perfect!!! I was glad I anticipated it could happen as I took care of my nails!
Post # 10
Thank you for all the sweet words & feedback!!!
As I expected, it did happen!! Friday night in Savannah (Columbia Square to be exact!), after a horse & carriage ride through town. With weak knees & tears of joy of couse I said YES! And even though I had an inkling it might be coming, it was still so special & exciting.
Post # 11
TheGridMonster: Did it go as expected? Do share!!
Cdngrlred: How was dinner?! How’d it all happen?
Can’t wait to here the stories!
Post # 12
cmtj331: Yayyyy!!! Congratulations! How adorable 🙂