Post # 1
So, the SO and I have been together nearly 10 years. I called my parents this morning just to say hello and Mom said she was just telling my Dad that she had hoped I would call in the middle of the night with exciting news, since it was Valentine’s day. He replied to her, “You may as well forget about that.” Geez, even my parents are giving up! Do your families ever give you grief about waiting?
Post # 3
How old are you? If you’re 23 and you’re been dating since 13, I’d say give it some time. If you’re like 26 or older, I’d light a fire under him!
Post # 4
You’re still young, it’ll happen soon. Maybe he’s one of those guys that thinks it’s too cheesy to propose on V-Day?
Post # 5
I’ve been with my Boyfriend or Best Friend for over nine years. My mom used to occasionally ask if I thought we would get married, but after telling her yes without any more detail or timeframe, she quit asking. My dad has never pressured us. I hope they haven’t given up yet, because I haven’t!
Post # 6
@Lyndzo: Why do you think she’s still young? she hasn’t stated her age on this thread.
I looked at an old post, you say you met when you were 19 and you’ve been together nearly ten years, so you are 28/29? I think that’s plenty of time. Have you talked about timelines?
Post # 7
I’m 29, he’s 30. Trust me, the fire has been lit! Actually I feel relieved lately. We recently had a huge argument that culminated in me sleeping in the guest room for a night. He didn’t sleep and the next night we sat down to talk it out and he cried and said I “complete him” and that when he pictures the rest of his life I’m always in it. He also said he has never meant to string me along or make me feel in any way that I’m not good enough for him, but that until recently he honestly wasn’t ready. He has looked at rings for sure, I don’t think he has purchased one. I’m not worried about it, now that the communication is opened up I feel so much better. And yes, he is definitely the kind of guy that thinks Valentine’s day is a cheesy day to propose so I definitely wasn’t expecting anything.
No worries, my parents aren’t upset about it- after watching their other children go through multiple marriages and divorces, with children involved, they just want me to be happy!
Post # 8
my dad doesnt say much about it, but my mom has no filter whatsoever! im the youngest out of 3, and neither one of us has been married, im in my late 20s and my two older siblings are in their 30s, so im her last hope, as she puts it.
im still waiting for my fi to pay off the ring, so i havent told her about our plans just yet. once i get my ring ill spill the beans, i wouldnt be suprised if she fainted once she gets the news. shes been waiting forever for one of us to jump the broom, lol poor thing.
Post # 9
Oh man. Why does it so often take guys a big argument before they realize, “oh, maybe I am ready to get married?” I finally knocked on FI’s head and told him “Look buster, I need 18 months to plan this Destination Wedding. If you think 2012 is a good year, you have until January to ask. That was in August 2010. He proposed on Oct. 18. Sometimes they just need a knock in the head to remind them that, “DOY” it takes a year to plan a wedding, sometimes more. So if you don’t propose for another year, it’s 2 until we’re actually married, dummy. All said with love. Of course.
Post # 11
I’d say you have a good perspective about it…your time will come!
Post # 12
@txbella: haha your Mom will be overjoyed when you announce your engagement! My mom’s filter went away about 2 years ago when my sister announced she wasn’t having any more babies. She’s itching for more grandchildren! She went from a “why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free” woman to “well you don’t have to be MARRIED to have a baby!”
@artichokey: Exactly. He has no clue! A destination wedding sounds exciting. After being in so many weddings I’m torn between a small destination thing and the big event I always thought I wanted.
@Miss Orchard: I’ve had ups and downs over the last few years, particularly when some of my best friends got married. But after seeing a few friends and family who have been cheated on, emotionally abused, and going through bitter divorces, I gained a new perspective (not that I don’t still have those days…sigh).
Post # 13
My mom really wants my boyfriend and I to get married. The way she sees it, I’m the only chance she has at having a married daughter, lol. My sister has a boyfriend but they are always on/off and cheating on one another, so my mom has lost all hope for her. My mom doesn’t pester us about getting married all the time like she used to. I’m starting to think she may know something I don’t, who knows.
Post # 14
@Tiger29: Once I clued him in I just started planning. I even ordered our invitation paper before he asked. When wedding stuff started showing up he realized he needed to kick it into gear. I’ve never been the type to consider patience a virtue and I think lots of men need the occasional kick in the pants to get moving.
Post # 15
@Tiger29 Oh my gosh, that sounds so much like my mother’s transition. Up until a year ago it was “why don’t people get married before children nowadays” and just last month she was asking when she would have a grandchild. “Mom, he hasn’t even proposed yet. Seriously?” to which she replied, “So? You’re brother and sister won’t be giving any up, you’re the next in line.”
Post # 16
They pretty much gave up on asking about it. But now my sister is engaged they are starting to pressure me again.