Post # 1
I think SO just hinted at an engagement and I am kind of shocked. We have discussed marriage as “something we want in the future” but pretty much just kept it vague and casual.
Last night he told me he saw one of my family members when he was out and he blurted “I told her I was going to marry you.” Then he changed the subject while I sat there having heart palpitations. This morning at breakfast he said (in a joking tone? I think?) “Would you be mad if I bought this car instead of a ring for you” and then flashed a picture of an (expensive) car he likes that he had saved on his phone, followed by a picture of a Tiffany’s engagement ring that he had saved on his phone. I wasn’t even sure how to take that… kind of a rude statement, maybe a joke? but I am pretty sure pictures of rings on his phone is a good sign? I am the queen of sitting there dumbfounded, unless I can come up with something witty to say, so I didn’t really say anything.
Okay, I just had to get all of this typed out so I could process it better. We will see if I am one of the happy people newly engaged in a few months. Who knows, maybe I am just reading into things too much, but it would certainly be pretty wonderful. Actually, it would be incredibly wonderful. Before I met SO I was fairly certain I was eventually destined to be a spinster with lots of animals.
Post # 2
DariaVixen: It’s always awesome when guys bring it up by themselves 😀 I think it’s a good sign he’s talking like that… Even if he’s just joking with you, it’s obvious he’s thinking about it. Just try to calm down and gather your thoughts and have an open discussion about it. You don’t have to sit around and wait. You guys both need to be on the same page or you run the risk of disappointment/ having misunderstandings. Talk to him about it. IDK why some girls are ok with being completely blindsided by proposals. You need to know its coming, so you can, if anything, at least have nice nails when he asks. 😉
Post # 3
Nothing wrong with being a girl living alone with lots of animals… It’s how I spent the past 8 years of my life.
He may be sincere or he may be joking. He sounds a bit immature though if he is joking about cars vs. engagement rings.
Post # 4
Consultette: I know there is nothing wrong with it, I am a girl who lives alone with her animals.
Post # 5
I think rings on his phone are a good sign. I also think he might have been fishing for your reaction or a conversation about how you feel about getting married. Next time you should try to speak up!
Post # 6
My FI started bringing up websites of rings in front of me a few months before he proposed. I honestly just ignored it and only took it half seriously. Once he did ask we went and bought a ring the next day together. I think some guys will give you signs but I wouldn’t read too much into it so you’re not disappointed if it doesn’t happen soon.
Post # 7
DariaVixen: aww! I love little moments like that.
Pics of rings on his phone is DEFINITELY a good sign!! And very random about your family member. Why would he blurt that out to you? lol He is hinting at something or very bad at keeping secrets haha.
My SO always asks if i would get mad if he buys cars first and i just roll my eyes and laugh lol. Or sometimes i say no i wouldnt mind and then stretch my ringless hand in his face and yawn haha.
I have no idea what was so special about yesterday (i think its because we hung out with some friends the night before who attended a wedding that weekend so we were talking about it a lot) but he kept saying in the morning before i left for work how much he loves me and only wants to be with me and could never find another etc. It was very sweet and then off i went to work (he stayed home bc he was sick) and he continued when i came home for lunch saying that if i would like to be selfish and buy something for me instead of a car then we could. He was smiling, of course!
and then after dinner he said if he gets his bonus at work at the end of the year then he would propose! WHAT!?! He said “maybe next year” a few months ago! But it also is not guaranteed he will get it lol so I may still have to wait to next year, but ahhh!!
sorry to take over LOL im just excited. But this yes. all very good signs for your SO!
Post # 8
DariaVixen: Pics of Tiffany rings on his phone, he’s bringing up the subject of marriage… these are all good signs!
How long have you two been together?
Like you, I also thought I would end up a spinster with lots of animals. (lol)
I think it’s very promising when the guy brings it up randomly and without being provoked. My DH also did this. Several months after we started dating, we were at an intimate, romantic cocktail lounge having a late night glass of champagne and the bartender could not help but notice how in love we looked — sitting close, hanging all over each other, being silly and romantic. DH asked for another round of drinks and the bartender joked, “Would you like me to bring an engagement ring with that?” To my surprise, my DH said very emphatically, “Yeah, man!” and laughed.
At that moment I was very, very surprised — we’d only been dating three months!
As the relationship progressed, DH continued to drop marriage hints, but a couple of times he also made comments that made me wonder if he was not planning on us getting married — similar to your SO joking about getting the car instead of a ring. But we ended up getting married, so he obviously was serious about our commitment.
I think those early signs and those teasing comments are very significant.
@leisha606: Ahhh! Your news sounds very exciting! I will keep my fingers crossed for you! ; )