I think he is cheating on me…

posted 7 months ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I don’t know if I could be with someone who can lie so easily then add him acting like a douche? No thank you. Good luck bee!

Post # 3
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Busy bee

I’m sorry, bee. TBH does it matter if he’s cheating or not? He sounds like a terrible partner. Hold a higher bar than cheating. You deserve to feel loved, to not be lied to, to feel taken care of and listened to. That’s not asking a lot of a person at all. You deserve better, and you need to know that. Sending you strength and hugs!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I guess my question is why are you still holding on ? This seems over. You don’t spend any time together, he is avoiding you and lying to you…would rather be anywhere else but with you.

Move on girlfriend and find you a man that wants to be with you. 

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Even if he wasn’t cheating – why would this be the type of person you would want to be with? You deserve better than a liar and someone who puts you down.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Aww sorry Bee. It doesn’t look promising. You don’t need luck, you just need to remember how awesome you are and that it’s his loss.

Post # 7
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573 posts
Busy bee

I’m sorry this is happening. You can confront him, but do you think he will tell you the truth? You can’t control him but you can control your own actions, and whether he’s cheating or not, the current situation is simply not good enough for you. I think you should tell him that, and stand your ground. Whatever happens, you deserve better than this xo

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

clove22 :  

Cheater or not, he doesn’t seem or sound like the type of man you want to marry.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

I’m sorry bee. I agree with PPs, even if he’s not cheating, you deserve to be treated better than this. Stay strong!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

I agree with the PPs too – regardless of whether he’s cheating, he isn’t treating you in a loving and respectful way! He’s not worth it!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

clove22 :  “I will end our relationship in a heart beat if he doesn’t give me answers”

what kind of answers are you looking for? what answers are acceptable that you would stay with him?

Honestly, i wouldnt care if he is cheating or not. He could be fishing alone on a boat for all i care and i would still end this. He sounds immature and selfish. If he can ignore and lie to you, but “explain” it away, he will continue to do so. I dont know if he is cheating, but he sure doesnt want you around to find out. 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

It’s time to move on. Be lucky it’s only 5 years of your life and not a marriage, kids and the house. A Little pain now is better than a lot of pain later. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Do NOT buy a house with this man!!! Please!

Post # 14
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Busy bee

clove22 :  From what you wrote it doesn’t automatically sound like he’s cheating but he’s got one foot out the door, at the very least.

I agree with having a life outside of your relationship but that doesn’t mean that your SO should be kept in the dark about it.  My boyfriend and I both have nights where we go out with just the girls or the guys but we always keep each other updated on our whereabouts.  That’s just common courtesy.  The fact that your boyfriend in being secretive is a pretty big red flag.

I don’t know.  This isn’t the kind of guy I’d want to be with.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

So it does sound as though he’s checked out of this relationship.  On the other hand though, devil’s advocate after a fashion, you are implying here that this is a very recent, sudden change in personality.  Any chance that something else is going on?  Since he still lives at home, I’m assuming late teens, early 20s – that is prime time to develop a mental health disorder.  Does his family think he’s acting strangely?  His friends?  If it’s just you, then yeah, something has happened to make him no longer interested.  If everyone is noticing weirdness, I’d be looking for other answers, even if in the end you find there’s nothing left for you to do.  Definitely hold off on buying a house or any other steps forward in the relationship, though!

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