(Closed) I think he lied about having the ring

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
1279 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Oohh how frustrating!! I guess this really comes down to what you plan to do with this information? On the one hand, he has led you on and on the other, he is moving forward and looking to buy a ring.

I would just take some time before you do anything so you dont react when emotional.

Maybe it is as simple as something fell through with the first ring purchase, or an expense came up that stopped him buying then?

Post # 4
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Do you think there could be some problem with the ring he had? Maybe he changed his mind and decided to get a different one? Or maybe he only had a band before and was planning to let you pick out your ring?

Try not to assume the worst because we really don’t know what’s going on. I hope everything works out! 

Post # 5
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7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Well thats not the worst thing to have happen……find your SO in a ring store at the mall! lol but I understand your dilemma. At the end of the day you will just have to trust that he has good intentions in mind.

How did you guys both end up at the mall without knowing?

Post # 7
Member
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think it’s justified to be disappointed, assuming he truly did lie about having the ring.  But keep in mind that it was probably to put you at ease that he does plan to marry you.  I think it is very sweet how your friend said he told the associate it may be awhile b/c he “wants to pick out the perfect ring”…clearly he’s thought about it and wants to make sure it’s something you like.  THAT’S a good thing! ๐Ÿ™‚ Whether he had the ring or not doesn’t really solidify the date he asks…he could have the ring for months and then ask, or ask the same day he picks it up. Either way, he’s looking and planning!!

Post # 8
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1086 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Oh my goodness, I’m sorry! I bet it was hard not telling her why you were upset, and watching him do something that you knew he had lied about… It can’t be easy. But as posted above, I do agree to take some time to calm your emotions, take a day or two so you can go to him with this information in a more calm manner.

It may not be happening today or tomorrow but you know he is out looking at e-rings on his own for you, it’s closer then you think and closer than many women are right now. Try to hold onto that before getting upset with him. Sure he lied and in a relationship lies are not very good, but he could have a good reason for this, it could be part of his plan to surprise you. You thought you knew what ring right? Well maybe he is trying to surprise you with a nicer ring, and making you think he already picked out and purchased one not as nice.

 

He seems to be putting thought into this, I’d say give him a little more time, He may really surpise you. I know it’s easy and seems right to be upset, but relationships are about giving and taking, and sometimes well just giving in when you know that’s the last thing you want to do. It seems like he really wants to do this his way, I’d say let him

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