- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
Darling Husband and I have been married for just over a month now. For the most part, things have been going well. We had a great honeymoon, we really like our apartment, and it’s nice going to sleep and waking up next to each other. Neither of us are working right now. I’m a teacher, so I’m on summer vacation, and he just recently moved back, so he is on the job hunt.
Essentially, we went on a weeklong honeymoon, spent the next week moving and getting settled. He would go to his mom and dad’s house to use their internet to work on his job hunt. We didn’t have internet until about a week ago. I’ll be honest, it was nice to have some separate time. He was also asking his dad for job advice (his dad is in a different field than him, but he has changed jobs quite a bit, so I guess he has tips on resume writing).
This didn’t start bothering me until recently. Even after we got internet, he would still go over there. He said he was asking for his dad’s advice, but then he would tell me that he would play with his nephew (my in laws baby-sit our nephew a few days a week). Last week, he went to pick out a new suit (we took advantage of the Men’s Wearhouse deal), and his dad had to come along to help pick out the suit. We helped out with a garage sale that his parents had, and we’re going on a weekend trip with his family.
When starting this job search, his father said for him to take his time looking, so he could enjoy time with me while I’m off. While that’s nice, I feel that in this economy, that can’t be something that is a concern. I really want him to focus on getting employment, because the extra money would be nice. We can live off of my salary, but it is tight. Plus, the extra time that he has off, he’s been spending with them, not with me.
This also comes on the heels of him giving me trouble that my dad would have problems letting go (he said this before we got married). My dad has called, we’ve gone over there a few times. He’s at his parent’s house EVERY. DAY.
I told him that I didn’t understand why he couldn’t concentrate over here when he would go over there and play with his nephew, he wasn’t happy hearing that. He told me that was my opinion, but he didn’t share it. He’s now sitting at our table, working on things. He’s not going to his mom and dad’s house today, because they are already at our weekend destination.
That was a long explanation. Anybody have tips on how to handle this? It’s now making me dread our weekend trip a bit. We’re sharing a condo with his parents, brother, and sister-in-law.