Post # 1
So my fiancee and I haven’t had sex in a few weeks. He tells me it’s because I’ve been working him too hard in the bed room. Then a few days later he tells me that his ureathra hurts when he pee’s. I’m like WTF? I’ve been committed to him and haven’t cheated on him. But his actions are questionable. Now we were seperated for 8 months and I heard that he was out there doing everything possible. And I heard that it can take guys longer to get symptoms from STD’s. How should I confront him on this?
Post # 3
I’d probably just bring up reasons as to why it would be hurting when he pee’d…
If you’re really worried about it, go get a std check, and if anything bad comes back, then you can confront him. I’d go asap if I were you.
Post # 4
ooo thats a tough one – has he thought about going and getting tested? have you? maybe you should go first – just to be sure – and tell him that you were worried about his pain and just wanted to be sure so you took it upon yourself to get tested. hopefully he will follow suit. i would just do it in a way that avoids embarrassment and accusations.
i know of several married couples who have one form or another of STD’s and prevention to the other person is completely possible BUT you have to know what you dealing with first.
Post # 5
Yes. You need to know what’s going on to make sure you’re healthy, you have the right to know what is going on.
Post # 6
I would make him get tested, if he loves you he should have no issue.
Post # 7
Maybe he just has a UTI but I would have him go to the doctor and have an STD test while he is there.
Post # 8
If it hurts when he pees, that is definitely an STD and that means he’s running up in girls with no condom. Too reckless for me.
Post # 9
@mwitter80: I noticed too!
Post # 10
@funlovingbridetobe: Not necessarily. My FI has problems with his prostate (he’s only 23) that started a year into our relationship and he did not have STD, but it hurt like hell for him to pee.
Def get checked, but he might just be having other problems (UTI or prostate)
Post # 11
I think you know what to do…. especially considering your other post..
Post # 12
I think you don’t need our confirmation, also considering your other post like CanadianMermaid said…
Post # 13
It could just be a UTI. It is less common for men to get them but not impossible. Hopefully that’s all it is and he’ll be on antibiotics for a week or so. He does need to go to the doctor though. I once had a UTI with no symptoms until it turned into a kidney infection and that was some pain I don’t want to relive.
If they find its not a UTI then you need to have a serious talk with him. I’d refrain from being intimate with him until this is resolved. If its something more serious like STD than that’s a whole other can of worms.
Post # 14
Men can get yeast infections as well which can be painful and irritating. It might be nothing STD related. None the less it should be checked out.
Post # 16
If I were you i would go for tests myself first. Make sure you’ve got the all clear and then go back and ask him to investigate the problem. It might be nothing, it might be totally innocent. Based on what the other bees have said, though, and your earlier post, perhaps there are deeper issues, and this is a heads up. He felt confident enough to tell you about this problem though.
In my experience men don’t get the same symptoms as women with STD’s, and cystitis is the usual cause for women having a burning sensation when they wee.
Has he recently been taking antibiotics for anything that you know of?
You have questions, get them answered really really quickly!