(Closed) I think he's getting ready to propose but it's crazy fast

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Is it possible to just KNOW you're with the right person in 4 months?
    You're crazy. No one should get engaged that fast. : (38 votes)
    18 %
    It's possible! Love happens in crazy ways! GO FOR IT! : (65 votes)
    31 %
    It's possible, but have a few adult conversations about engagement first. Surprise is overrated. : (95 votes)
    46 %
    RED FLAG RED FLAG RED FLAG : (9 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    1222 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I’m 99% not qualified to answer this, but I will anyway.

    If you love him and can see yourself with him in 30 years, I say go for it! I met my SO almost 7 years ago and I knew he was the one the day I met him. Sometimes it’s like that. I think as long as you talk about the important stuff like money and whether or not to have kids, it should be OK. I know a couple that met and were engaged after 4 months and are still happily married 4 years later.

    Go for it! 🙂 I’m excited for you!

    Post # 4
    1925 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I knew I wanted to marry my Fiance one month into the relationship.  Granted, we waiting 4.5 years to get engaged and will have been together 6 years by the time we get married, but we were really young when we met (I was 19, he was 21.  Now we’re 25 and 26).  I think if we were older when we met, we would have gotten engaged and married within a year of meeting, though.  Anyway, my point is, sometimes when you know, you just know.

    Post # 7
    2861 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013


    Until I met my fiance, I would have said absolutely not but we both knew we wanted to be together from the first date. I think he was ready to propose at about 4 months but figured I would freak (so he waited 7 months). We have been engaged for 1 1/2 years (wedding date 5/26/13).

    Post # 8
    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    In my religion people get married very quickly without knowing each other for years and years. Some of the happiest couples I know only dated for a few months before getting married and are incredibly happily married very many years later. Some are not.

    The huge thing is that these couples approach their dating with the mindset that they are “dating for marriage” and therefore really make sure that huge, big things that matter for the future are in line before some other smaller things. So I don’t necessarily think it’s too soon as long as the big, huge things that matter to build a successful foundation and marriage are truly in place. Only you can decide what those big, huge things are for you but primarily values, morlas, goals, etc. 

    Just to mention, my husband and I dated from July 20 to October 18 of the same year. 

    Post # 9
    363 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    In my thinking, even a few months from now would still be a very fast courtship. If you feel comfortable enough to feel it would be right in a few months, then I say you should initiate a few serious conversations and just enjoy it whenever it happens!

    Post # 10
    3452 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Sometimes, you just know it’s right.

    Post # 11
    790 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I agree…sometimes it is just right…but if it is, it will also be just right 4 months from now. If he does propose, it’s perfectly OK to either say “I need a bit more time together” or if you really feel it for him, too, you can say yes but have a longer engagement. No one should rush you into this big of a decision…including the guy you may marry! 4 months really is a little too short a time to know someone well enough to marry, In My Humble Opinion


    As far as red flags go, does he try to push you into other things, is he overly possessive and controlling of you, do little things make him crazy jealous, has he tried to cut you off from your friends & family…and so on. Those are the red flags that go with a dangerous relationship (which is why I think you included the final option in your survey).

    Post # 12
    535 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I met my guy in Feb, and 3 months later im on a site called “weddingbee”, so you can guess my vote. I say as long as youve discussed it together, and have really thought about it youurself, then go for it.

    Post # 13
    597 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @purpledaisies: I knew I wanted to marry my love around 4 months into our relationship, before we even said I love you! It really varies from couple to couple but if you feel hesitant, bring it up and have a few talks about marriage, kids, finances etc to make sure you’re both on the same page.

    Best of luck!  

    Post # 16
    10714 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My Fiance and I started talking “weddings” after 3 months. He proposed at 10 months and had a 17 month engagement. Even of its a little fast for you, you can always have a longer engagement 🙂

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