I Think He's Wanting to Elope

posted 3 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
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2571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Commenting to follow, as we’re doing the resort thing and I am curious as to how those type things have turned out as well (although I like the aspect of just pointing to something and saying “ok, we’ll do that”.

I know some places will let you bring your own decor, so maybe that could be the best of both worlds? 

Post # 4
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5932 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@badabing88:  …we did a REALLY small ceremony and a big BBQ reception/housewarming…all local, all totally us and all TOTALLY AFFORDABLE and AMAZING….please see below…and once we got over the fact that we weren’t going to do all the stuff other couples do…not that is bad or good…it was really liberating and fun to throw it all together and make it happen!

Post # 6
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9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@badabing88:  As you know, we are eloping. Eloping just means that the logistical details are taken care of. You can still personalize – we are writing our own vows and have found that there are a lot of customizable options out there. After my morning freak out, I actually had about 10 venues reply at once. It is not only affordable, but it keeps the focus on the meaning of the day – the two of you – and not on a million details that won’t matter when the day is over.

Also, when you are working hard to reach your own financial goals, it doesn’t make sense to spend your money on other people. Make the day about the two of you and that will be even more special and romantic than a huge elaborate party that you had to bankrupt yourselves for. Vegas would be a ridiculously fun wedding that I could totally see you making awesome. Don’t stress about the venue – you’ve got the man you want and that’s all you need.

Your man is being practical and wants to make sure your day to day is taken care of 🙂

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@badabing88:  Me too! And a lot of the packages are under $2,000. I am very happy about that. It saves more money for the honeymoon and you know, life 😛

My FI was the same way – we were married within a year of meeting (we are legally married, but no ceremony or nice pictures). When you know, you know!

Post # 9
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9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@badabing88:  Your backup plan of renting a beach house and having a small ceremony/reception is our plan exactly.  Our budget is $5K and we have been able to stick to it so far.  The house took up half of our budget but everything else has stayed within our estimates.  I am DIYing the centerpieces and bouquets using Sam’s Club flowers to save money.  I ordered my dress from Dressilyme.com.  We are serving a BBQ buffet and we saved over $500 by ordering trays from a local restaurant rather than using the catering route.  We were able to get a friend to be the day of coordinator for only $100 (plus all the BBQ and booze he can drink. Wink)  We hired an up and coming photographer from Craigslist.  We severely cut our guestlist from over 150 guests to 50-60 guests.  We’re using aluminum chaffers and serving food/drinks on paper plates with plastic cups and utensils.

I totally wanted to elope but my FI wanted the traditional wedding reception/party.

 

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@badabing88:  We keep going back and forth too. My BFF’s wedding was tiny and so freaking beautiful that we both kind of want to just do that. But, really, if you want a home reception too, it doesn’t make a ton of financial sense to go cross-country to have the ceremony in Vegas. Why split it up into two days? 

If you’re letting go of the reception idea, there are plenty of places to have a lovely small personal ceremony. BFF’s on the beach in Cambria was gorgeous and the officiant let them cut down/rearrange/rewrite the whole thing so it was very personal. Look at non-religious officiants in your area. You could always just do a weekend trip to someplace beautiful and come back married with beautiful pictures. 

Post # 12
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9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@badabing88:  We paid a little more to rent our beach house for the entire week leading up to the wedding so we can be there early to decorate (figure out decorating issues) and relax on the beach a bit before the wedding.  Members of our bridal party and friends from the UK are staying with us that week as well.

P.S. If you’re interested in St. Augustine, PM me and I’ll send you the website for our beach house.  It can sleep up to 12 people.

Post # 14
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6073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@badabing88:  Yes!  We used a lodge’s elopement package.  We were actually looking for someone to “take care of it all” since our engagement journey was so emotionally draining (booked a DW, cancelled a DW, flew home lots to visit dying dad, watched my father die in my arms).

 

The elopement package was just what we needed after all of that.  We felt taken care of.  The package came with the bouquet/bout.  I emailed the wedding planner photos of bouquets I liked for the florist.  They did a great job!  I also got to send photos of the kind of cake we wanted.  Also perfect!  There was really only one officiant available in the area – she and I created the ceremony. 

 

The total package included 2 nights lodging (king bed with view of lake), breakfasts each morning, three course wedding dinner, champange, engraved toasting flutes, fruit/cheese platter in our room while getting ready, wedding planner to plan it all, bouquet/bout, wedding cake.

 

 

 

 

Post # 15
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6964 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@badabing88:  Dude. You could TOTALLY have my best friend’s wedding. The hotel was dog friendly. They chose to leave them there during the ceremony, but we totally could have had them one the platform thing with us. And then you could get a private room/table at one of the restaurants and decorate! 

This is the platform/pier thing they got married on:

And this is the view:

The food in Cambria is freaking amazing. I refused to eat anything but salads for two weeks after that trip!

Post # 16
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6073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

PS – I have been told I’m a huge control freak in denial.  I liked the elopement package.

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