(Closed) I think I did the right thing, My friends say not.

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: Did the right thing?
    Yes : (185 votes)
    94 %
    No : (11 votes)
    6 %
    Your Crazy : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    460 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I definately think you did the right thing by being happy and wanting to help. Noone is going to steal the spotlight on your day and we all share engagement time 🙂 Good for you for being a good and happy sister. Plus this time might bring you guys closer together! Congrats to both of you!!

    Post # 4
    306 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I think you are a very kind and selfless person to act the way you are. Your sister is lucky to have such a caring and supportive sister. Congrats to all!

    Post # 5
    112 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think you are doing the right thing! I mean, its not like she got engaged the same time you did and I think that her guy asking for your advice is so sweet.I don’t think that you are crazy at all.




    Post # 6
    616 posts
    Busy bee

    I can’t believe your friends are telling you you’re crazy for being supportive! That is definitely the exact opposite of how this situation usually goes down. Are you sure they’re not saying it out of impressed surprise? Like: “Really? You’re not upset about this!? [That’s so mature and respectful of you!]”

    Post # 7
    385 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I have never understood the whole idea of people thinking that just because someone else gest engaged it “steals your thunder”.  You did the right thing.  Of course you should be happy for your sister.  I got engaged the weekend before my friends wedding- she was happy for us.  It sounds like this could be a great opportunity for you and your sister to get closer sharing something this important in your lives at the same time.  have fun!

    Post # 9
    1723 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think it’s great that you are excited and want to help!  Your friends are just displaying what has become an all to common reaction, jealousy.

    Post # 10
    347 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I just realized that I voted no (meaning you are not crazy) but I guess I should have voted yes – that I would have done the same thing as you!  You are NOT crazy!!  Congratulations to you!!  : )


    Post # 11
    1111 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I think it’s great that you are excited for your sister!  There’s no reason not to be.  I understand brides wanting a little bit of time to bask in the attention a new engagement brings – but by the time your sister’s Boyfriend or Best Friend proposes, you’ll have been engaged for well over two months.  That’s plenty of time to be the “newly engaged person” in your family.

    Don’t listen to your friends.  You sound like a great sister!

    Post # 12
    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I wish my sister was as nice as you are! The same thing happened to us (she got engaged a few months before me) and she was a nightmare. She became super passive aggressive and just stopped talking to me completely, meanwhile I kept hearing rumours she was mad that I ‘stole her thunder’. It was such a shame because we could have been using our engagements as an excuse to bond and get closer.

    Post # 13
    1944 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    My sister got engaged a month after me and I was so excited! Personally I think your friends are the ones being a little rude and crazy!

    Edit: Just saw your update. I’m sorry but they think you get a whole year to celebrate your engagement and have that glory? That’s ridiculous! No offense, but when a friend or family member gets engaged I’m happy for them but then the world moves on. Do they honestly think that people are going to be excited about an engagement longer than a few days? Yep I’m sorry, you are so in the right. Your friends need to come off the crazy train.

    Post # 14
    5977 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @MrsCoachBtoBee: Ditto

    @ffemt: I think it’s awesome that you’re so excited for your sister. Though it wasn’t my sister, my BFF and my roommate both got engaged just before me and right after me. I couldn’t be more thrilled for both of them. I think it really speaks of your character to help your sister’s boyfriend in picking out the ring and being genuinely happy for the two of them. You’re a great person!

    Post # 15
    645 posts
    Busy bee

    I have no idea why anyone think you’re crazy for supporting! I mean it’s your sister! I don’t think there is anything wrong with you being there for them… this isn’t the movie Bride Wars… It’s real life! 

    Post # 16
    6512 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    You are definitely in the right here – your friends are being weird, frankly! 

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