- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
Because so many of you lovely ladies understand what a good relationship is! Maybe I have high standards because I think my relationship is great, but almost NO ONE in my immediate life has a good relationship.
My mom is with her boyfriend because she’s afraid to look for someone else, since he’ll be upset. She actually says she doesn’t want him to come over because “he’ll annoy the sh*t out of me”. This is a woman who got winked at by Leonardo DiCaprio in the street, and whom Mick Jagger tried to pick up in a bar in the 80s. She is fit, attractive, does NOT look her age, and earns a ton of money. She could do much better!
My BIL is planning a wedding to his third girlfriend, who basically doesn’t agree with any of his values and starts political and religious “debates” will all of his friends. She constantly insults his sister, and wrote me a letter after my wedding about how she wishes she hadn’t come because we didn’t “respect her needs” (that she didn’t tell us about- we invited his ex who is a longtime friend of mine/daughter of MIL’s best friend; they have been broken up for 5 years. I didn’t expect her to be overjoyed to see her, but COME ONE- I had way bigger issues to deal with than that. She didn’t have to sit with her or interact with her in any way.), she doesn’t understand why she was invited to our rehearsal dinner, and she referred to his family as “a bunch of french people” when she was complaining that she had no one to hang out with the morning of. I’m pretty sure she is the most self centered person I know, and BIL has actually said that he’s marrying her because he already put so much effort into the relationship.
I was up counseling my best friend the other day because she had talked to her ex, whom she stayed with against my advice for two years because she thought they “worked”. He was emotionally abusive, and they didn’t have anything in common. He also is not attractive, and they fought ALL THE TIME. Can anyone explain to me how someone would think that relationship works? Of course she sees now that I was right, but that didn’t stop her from wasting two years on him.
Those are just a couple of examples, but COME ONE PEOPLE. It’s tiring.
At least when I come on weddingbee, I see that kind of idiocy smacked down.
(I know I sound pretty high and mighty, but I’m a 20-something, so I obviously think I know everything. But I’ve also spent the past 7 years with a man who has never once said anything mean to me, gently corrects me when I’m wrong, helps me to work to improve myself and my habits, voices his opinions and respects mine, and does his absolute best to take care of me. So I really do believe that I know what a good relationship looks like.)