- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
Ok so I signed on to this site a week after my SO and I went ring shopping, but i knew that just beause we went didn’t mean it would happen soon but it was exciting and i let me know that emotionally he is ready for that jump. However financially we are not. Im 24 living at home and finally got the nerve to stop law school and start fashion design (long story short mom never wanted me to do fashion , father always wanted me to do law & i caved :$). He is 27 working his way from the bottom up and one day wants to become a chef, and he is just finishing his payments on a loan and feels that he is gonig in the direction of being able to save and prvide for a wife and family in the future( (his words).
After the ring shopping .. oh by the way we told none of our parents cuz over here is very traditional and even going in the stores ppl thought we were looking for wedding bands instead of engagement rings. However his mother bucked us while ring shopping and found out lol . Anyway we found the ring i love it but didn’t wanna get my hopes up cuz i went into this knowing we were just looking but because of car issues and not yet being finshed with the loan he has to wait to get the ring. On top of that his mother started asking all types of questions about when he’s going to ask if we found a ring and etc. And it put so much pressure on the poor guy he almost had a melt down. So i told him if the ring still there or not pay off his bills and stuff because that’s more important than a stupid ring ( no matter how much i love it he is always more important).
So step a few weeks ahead we finally had time to talk and agree that yes it is a suprise so i wont know when its going to happen but few months ago agree that we are still in agrement for a wedding sometime end summer late next year and because i told him i never wanted a long engagement it still gives us plenty of time to save and work out the details later. He wants atleast 3 years to enjoy “time with the wife” and because of personal reason i would love to have kids anytime after tht but before i turn to late into my 30s (don’t want to put high risk on top of the issues i already have). So my guess is it can happen anywhere between december (our anniversary )or March (my birthday) but then again he’s trying to really throw me off so those 2 dates mite be totally off lol. But to know we have a plan is what makes this whole waiting thing easy.
Sorry this is super long tho and for those who are waiting talk openly and honestly and set a timeline and find hobbies things to do so u wont be on edge enjoying being tht girlfriend because in no time you wont hold tht title anymore.