(Closed) I think I lost a friend…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Maybe involve her in other ways?  Like as a reader or something like that – so that if she’s like super into it she can go dress shopping with you and your ladies and still feel really involved without being a bridesmaid?

Good Luck

Post # 4
1872 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

She probably is hurt about not being a BM and also resenting the fact that you are putting her “to work” so to speak without giving her the title–even if she loves design and stuff.

You can’t keep from hurting everyone’s feelings and you shouldn’t go back on your decision, but if she’s your friend, you probably owe it to her to break it to her gently and talk about your decision.

Post # 5
185 posts
Blushing bee
Post # 6
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I personally wouldn’t want to help you out if I was offended about not being asked to be a BM. I think it’s a little insulting, like it’s an after thought. Plus if she’s doing all that, she should be in the wedding party. So no you don’t have to make her a BM, but cool it a little on the wedding talk and def don’t ask her to do anything unless it’s a reading.

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