- 1 year ago
Two days ago I had my friend (S), her husband and their new baby over for dinner. It was a perfectly lovely evening until after dinner when my FI and her husband went off to play video games and S brought out a board game she had brought with her. Normally I love board games, but this one was asking for trouble. I think it was called Dilemma, and to move forward you had to answer questions like “You find out that your brother-in-law has cheated on your pregnant sister. You know it was only a one time thing and he is very remorseful. Do you tell your sister knowing that she will leave him?”. You could refuse to answer, but then you had to move back.
Anyway, it was fun at first, and really made you think, but then I came to what I thought was a simple question: “Your house is on fire right now, of all those present who do you save?”. My answer: “my cat, obviously”. I love my FI, but my kitty is my baby and I could not live with myself if I abandoned him in a burning building.
At that point S got a weird look on her face and said: “I’d save my baby.” Of course she would, that natural and I told her so. We tried to continue playing, but suddenly she said “would you really save your cat? I mean if the house caught on fire now, with all of us inside, you’d save your cat?” I said yes and she lost it.
First she said how immature I was who’d try to save my cat instead of her baby, and then pointed out that I could just buy a new cat if I lost the one I have. At that point I made the mistake of saying that if my cat was replaceable with a similar one, so was her baby. It was stupid thing to say, though I do believe it, on a very basic level to be true. (My cat is 3, he has personality, her baby is 3 weeks, he’s just a smelly snot machine at this point).
At that point S was shouting at me and crying hysterically. She dragged her husband out and left. My FI told me not to worry, that it was probably just the hormones of a new mum, and that I should just call her and apologise. Which I tried to do yesterday.
S sounded so cold on the phone and after listening to my apology, she demanded that I acknowledge that her baby is worth more than my cat. I couldn’t say that (because to me that’s not true). She then told me to go straight to hell and hung up.
So, there we have it. A 15 year friendship down the pan over a few careless words.
Thanks for listening, writing it all out has made me feel better.