Post # 1
I’ve already ordered my invitations, and was so concerned about the wording regarding times and locations that I neglected to put “cash bar.” We do not have it in our budget to have an open bar. Unlimited soda, juice, coffes and tea is $5/person, 80 people, so we’ll have that, but guests will have to buy any alcoholoc drinks. The beer/wine/soda package is $13.50/pp, premium brand open bar is $19.75/pp.
Our wedding is on a Sunday afternoon. We’re getting married on a cruise ship (not like a Carribean one, one that takes people on tours down the river). We board at 12:30, the captain will marry us at 12:45, then we cruise from 1:00 to 4:00.
It’s obviously not the kind of wedding where people will expect to get drunk, but now I’m worried that I didn’t warn guests to bring cash if they want to drink.
Post # 3
@MrsBlah: You did absolutely nothing wrong. Just put it on the website or spread it through word of mouth. I would never expect it to be on the invites.
Post # 4
I think that’s something that can be spread by word of mouth. I’ve been to a couple cash bar weddings, and they never put it on the invite.
I think you’re fine!
Post # 5
What do the invitations say? Do they say anything addressing what to expect at the reception?
You could do an additional insert that had some “Things to Know,” like information on seasickness (you could just say it’s unlikely anyone will get motion sick but if they are prone to it, they may want to take dramimine), something about parking or shoes or whatever, and the cash bar item. Basically just informational extra stuff that might be okay if you didn’t include it, but you’re making up some stuff to add so that the cash bar isn’t the only point of info.
Post # 6
@MrsBlah: I would just have your family and friends spread the word.
I think because A) it’s a daytime wedding and B) it’s on a ship it’s not so scandalous to have a cash bar.
Post # 7
i’ve never seen a wedding invitation that specified a cash/open bar, so don’t even worry about it. when i go to weddings i always anticipate having to buy my drinks, so i always take cash with me anyway.
just put it on your website and have your friends/family spread the word. it’ll be fine 🙂
Post # 8
@MrsBlah: I say don’t worry about it! That’s early enough in the day that I think people wont even be looking to drink much.
word of mouth would work. Tell your parents or siblings to spread the word or put it on your wedding website
Post # 9
Does the ship take credit/debit? That’s the only thing I’d worry about since you can’t exactly go to an ATM.
Post # 10
Word of mouth or your website I think are the best ways to handle it. I, like most of the PP, haven’t ever seen it mentioned on an invite. I don’t think you messed anything up!!
Post # 11
I agree, most people wouldn’t include that info on the invite! Just make sure you are directing people to your website (with an insert or something) and that the info is online :).
Post # 12
Take a deep breath… and know that you are fine !!
Strictly from an Etiquette point of view… one should never mention ANYTHING financial on / with one’s Invites
So nothing about Gifts, Cash Bars, or Hotel Accommodations
All that info is to be passed on to Guests either by Word of Mouth (traditional) or on one’s Wedding Website (modern)
And as oneofthesethings: has said, you’ll want to have all the facts… CASH ONLY… or will they take Debit / Credit as well.
Hope this helps,
Post # 13
@MrsBlah: Spread the word through family and friends verbally.
Post # 14
Thank you thank you thank you 🙂 I really thought that was supposed to be on the invites. I ordered all-in-ones so I can’t insert anything, and we didn’t do a website. But I think you’re all right, being on a ship, Sunday afternoon, we should be okay. We can spread the word easily – we’re pretty close to all the guests.
I’m glad I posted this, I was stressing lol
Post # 15
I agree with the previous posts- you have done nothing wrong, and should spread the word on your website and verbally. Don’t stress!
Post # 16
I know a lot of bees disagree with me, but I subscribe to the school of host what you can afford and don’t offer the cash option. Would you ever invite someone over to dinner and tell them they had to pay for a glass of wine? They’d certainly understand if you said “I’m sorry, we don’t have any wine,” rather than “sure, open your wallet.” Part of hosting is being hospitable. If I were you, I’d just stick with the soda/juice/coffee pacakge and not worry about a cash bar.